lacedcorset's blog: "Thoughts and Conclusions"

The beautiful elegence of the city flew by as my foot was on the petal and my eyes were forward. My excitement grew knowing the many different features that the city has to offer. With my mind racing, my friend screams at me to turn. I almost missed our exit. We laugh. Last night I walked down the infamous Bourbon Street. Most locals will say they would love to get rid of it and they stay away from it at all cost. I did for the most parts. We enjoyed the artist studios and the shops on Royal. We always enjoy eating at Pat O's.....and I love Razoos but I didn't get to do that last night. After Pat O's, we got on Burgundy and started to walk back to the hotel....We ended up meeting a local couple and had a nice chat.

What do people want in a "perfect date"? Is there such things as the "perfect date"? I do know this, for every person the perfect date is different and when you find another one that thinks their perfect date is the same as yours.....that is when it is truely Perfect.

I know I have noticed that I have started a trend in my relationships that when it gets serious I have started reevaluating the relationship and been pushing them away. Do we have knowledge of this beforehand or are we our for longer-short term relationships? (6 months or so) The computer world has come along way on how to meet. If you are horny and would like a one night stand you can get on some sites and holler out and in 30 minutes be screaming with an orgasm. Then you have your guys that want repeat chances to do it. Basically they want repeat one night stands but they call it "friends with benefits". If you find one it is your choice. You also have discreet relationships. This means I am hiding you from my friends and family. Either I am not comfortable with you or he is married. Usually the later. Sometimes you can weed them out to say you just want to meet and have a date. Now a days they don't want to date someone off of a computer. (like I said this is my opinion) Now back to what I was going to say. With the computer world are we having a harder time committing since it is so easy to find someone else? If something so simple goes wrong in the relationship we can come on here and talk it out. Are we looking to commit or is it fun playing? In the alt world would you rather have one person that knows exactly how you play and mix it up some or mix it up alot with playing with different people. These are questions pondering my mind.

There are many things that I prefer in a man. I believe that everyone has their own idea of a "perfect" person. And to describe him is not to seclude anyone it is just what I like. When a tall men is around me, my heart flutters though in the recent past I have dated a man the same height as I. I prefer a dominant man though a man that switches can allow me to express a different side of me as well. I prefer a man to have dark hair though I have dated men that were blonde to bald. I love blue eyes but hazel to green are wonderful as well. I prefer slim to a little muscle (a basketball player's type body)but have dated men that were very muscular and others that were a little over weight. I just don't like big guts.(the beer belly) Like I said these are the things I like and don't like. Doesn't mean that I have to have them because a man that has the best personality wins me over everytime.

I have discovered there are two ways of thinking in the D/s world and I am mortified. After discussing this with some other Collarme coed’s the idea of pain, punishment, and spanking has brought many people to argue. In my endeavors I always assumed that when I was being spanked it was out pain and pleasure. They knew that I enjoyed the pain and wanted me feel it and take as much as I could. But then there are the others that use pain and spanking as punishment. They want to break the person they are with and overly hurt the person so the sub will beg for mercy. As a lover I am appalled by this idea and could not imagine being in a relationship that every night I had to be broken down and be with the one that wants to hurt me for his pleasure. I always thought that this kind of play was mutual pleasure and I will not stand for that.

Limits are as follows: no children, no animals, no scat, no watersports, no forcing oral, no tape directly on the skin, no pins, no fire, no piercing, dislike: clamps, canes I like to do pretty much anything. I am always up for a challenge. I enjoy spending time with family and friends, watch movies, going out to a club on occasion, going to have dinner and drinks with my friends, singing to the top of my lungs in my car to '80s music, watching Monday night football with a beer in my hand yelling at the refs, riding 4 wheelers, dancing, bowling, and a whole lot more but too much to say. As far as my likes in the BDSM world Ass Play, Blindfolds, Bondage, Candle Wax, Chains, Collar and Leash, Dildos, Discipline, Domination, Sex In Public, Hair Pulling, Handcuffs/Shackles, Leather, Masochism, Massage, Masturbation, Mutual Masturbation, Nipples, Oral Fixation, Oral Sex, Pain, Participating in Erotic Photography, Power Exchange, Spanking/Paddling, Talking Dirty, Toys, Vibrators, Voyeurism, Whips In a nutshell I like bondage and discipline....I like ropes, toys, lingerie, corsets, being spanked for hours if done right, and I like a man that knows many positions. (I hate missionary)

Trust is a strong word. Is it ever used correctly on the computer or is it compromised? Have you ever met someone from here that held your trust so deeply that you allowed them to know everything? Or is this a site of secrets and borrowed sin? Is there anyone trying to be real besides me? Can anyone else be on this site and want an old fashioned relationship without being ridiculed for it?

I know for me I won't go out with a master. I only go out with dominant men. If you can understand that there are differences in them then you can understand why I question a caring master. I am a woman of defiance. I love the playfulness of pulling away when I am being made to do something. Then the punishment for my actions. I have found men that spank for their pleasure without thinking of the woman.....I have found men that spank too lite.... Then I have found men that spank without really knowing where to spank. But then there are those that know just how to treat you....You allow them to take you further then anyone else does. Whether it is spanking, tying you up, vibration, dildos, anal, e-stim, or whatever you can think of....but my thing is spanking....I had one that spanked me for well over an hour..... When he knew I was feeling it too much he started to caress me on my erotic spots (the back of my neck, the base of my spine) When in him doing this it made me feel like not one anymore....we were whole. So some man telling me what to do and making me do it would really defy who I truely am as a person and in pleasure.

Why do people tell single men/women that are searching for a bf/gf to "just wait, the right one will be around the corner before you even know it"? As a divorced woman I know from experience that I can be happy in a relationship even though things don't end up the way you would like it. Thats okay. Growing up I don't believe I went without a boyfriend though. I don't know if it is out of boredom or a sense of needing someone to complete me I'm searching for one now. Does the human race really need to pair off for completion? I know I enjoy making new friends and I know that this site and others allow me to make them where I wouldn't have been able to without the computer. But is my anxiety hindering me from actually making the right choice about who I want to be with or am I settling cause they are the first one to ask? By that last question you can kind of know the answer to it if you read my profile. I am very stict on what I want in a man. I want a man to have manners, be cultured, adventurous, fun, be able to be laid back, enjoy the kinks I enjoy, and know how to make me smile. I also demand a man to be REAL. If you contact me, act like you would in real life. Don't hide behind your profile. Be real. Say things you would say to someone you would if you met them in a supermarket. I'm a person that has feelings and you are a person that should care about them. If you are vulgar enough to walk up to a stranger and say "Come suck me cock bitch" or "Nice tits" I know I don't want to meet you and I will never respond to you. So treat me like a real person and I will treat you like one too. But like the title goes, patience.......I have always had trouble with it. Patience. I don't have my way and I have to submit. So, I am calling to you oh man of my dreams.....come to me.

Weekend is coming up and the weather is finally cooling down. Just the simple changing of the season and a smell in the air can bring back memories for me. High school, bell rings and the mad dash for our cars. Ah I see the "Egg". I had a 1986 Mercury Tracer hatchback...white of course and my friend had to nickname that bubble of a car "The Egg". Grab my keys and jimmy the lock...stubborn bastard after 9 years of being around the car you would think I would know how to open the damn door. My friends pile in. We race off with Pearl Jam Ten playing Jeremy on our tape deck. After dropping them off to their houses I go home for the normal routine...shower, dress, primp, and glimmer for that hurried night out. At that age we didn't wait to start our night at 9 pm or 10....we went out about 5 pm or 6 and met up with friends. But back then the cool thing to do was cruise the strip....here in our town it was circle Xtra Play, drive by the bowling alley, then to taco bell, then down town, then to Kmart and stop if you saw anyone. Otherwise you went to someone's house. Now in Jonesboro you had a set strip you road all the way down and came back again and kept doing it over and over again. I knew all the little towns around us and their patterns....One weekend I did all of them...I hit about 5 towns just for the heck of it... You know things you remember and things you want to forgot. I laughed so hard one night when I had my friends with me and we were doing donuts on fresh gravel behind the school in "The Egg". Three people in the backseat and two in the front....we ended up on two wheel that night by accident and one girl peeed in her pants....LOL...We laughed so hard. The whole time we went in circles we had so much fun though Like I said...this time of year I love it. Memories