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Sometimes he’ll say cheezy stuff to you just to make you smile so he knows you’re a little happy. When he looks at you it puts a smile on his face for no reason. The real reason it does that is because he can believe that someone as beautiful as you is with him. He stands up for you no matter who it’s against even if he gets hurt. He calls you at night just to say “hi” and to see how your day was. When he sees you again because he missed you he kisses you where you’re pressed against the wall. Then he whispers “I missed you so much”. You know he loves you when you both have a moment where you just gaze into each other’s eyes even if he’s with his friends and you’re with yours. When you cry he wipes away the tears and he’ll hold you tightly as he says every thing’s alright then stays with you all night not wanting anything from you. Even if you say you hate him he tries to be there for you through the roughest parts of your life. He’ll want to know how you’re feeling because you may seem sad to him and he likes it when you smile. this is real romance/love

When all your bf says is I love you it could be 3 things. 1 he wants something from you.2 he doesnt know how to express his feelings probably because he doesnt understand them or when he thinks about you it is true love and he never felt these things before.3 what he may be really trying to say is “I adore you and cherish the time we spend together. When I think of you I get lost in thought because you’re so wonderful. Each time I say I love you I’m trying to remind you that you're the best thing that has ever happened to me”. Sometimes men don’t want to look weak so we keep what we feel inside and never let it out. We fight with other men in areas girls could never think of and we fight with their ideas of what a man is. It may seem stupid to others when we fight but its not just about pride. Women say “just be yourself” but when we are it never goes well. They go after guys that treat them like shit, that just say I love you for sex and never cares about them. The outsiders are the ones that would treat her with kindness and love but unless they start becoming an ass they'll just be another shadow to them. when we try to be "us" its always why cant you be like him or why cant you do what he can. I know true love is when someone loves you for who you are but its the girl who picks the guy. there are twice as many women as there are men in the world if not more. i know some men who just want to find the one just like she does. we dont just talk about sex, games, or whos stronger. sometimes we all gather in one big group and talk about what we can do to take over the world. loves a real bitch sometimes

10th grade 
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

11th grade 
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. 

Senior year 
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she doesn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. 

Graduation Day 
A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

A Few Years Later 
Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Funeral
Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.

It's no secret that men want sex. And generally, we want it a lot. But what other things does your man want from you? Turns out there are some simply sexy, easy, activities you can incorporate in your day-to-day and reap the benefits of a super-satisfied male. Here are 10 things your man wants you to do but might never ask for:

10. Listening It's number 10, but that doesn't mean it isn't important; men aren't all about sex. As much as he tries to deny it, your man needs a shoulder and a listening ear from time to time, but knowing when is the key. Try to hear not only what he is saying, but also what he is not saying, as most men won't tell you what's really going on in their heads right away. Reading between the lines will show him that you truly care, that you really get him, and that you're sympathetic to his needs and wants.

9. Homemade Food It really is true that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Your guy might love it if you cooked an elaborate meal for him, but he could be afraid to ask because he doesn't want to seem like he expects you to cook. So, surprise him with a home-cooked meal every now and then; or if you can't cook, takeout on your good plates works too (just make sure to hide the boxes at the bottom of the trash can and he'll never know the difference). You never know he just might do something great for you to show you how much he liked it. (I gave her an all day pass to do what ever she wanted to/with me or for me to do, no questions asked. i cooked a good meal, went shopping with her as her bag boy, took cabs every place we went, did her hair and nails/feet, gave her a full body massage with oil, i went down on her and her sensitivity wnet up, we whent to a hotel and they only had 4hr stay max so i paid for 20hrs up front.)

8. Gifts Men are basically just oversized kids; they love Christmas, Father's Day, and any excuse to get gifts. They love to get the latest boy toys: guy movies, stuff for their car, or any battery-operated gadget. Just remember that getting your guy something you think he should like but that he actually won't is a cardinal sin. Try thinking about gifts giving in these terms. Pre-ordering Halo 4 for him is equivalent to him sending you a dozen roses n chocolate at work for no reason. Buying two season passes to the museum is like him getting you a bowling ball for your anniversary 

7. Positive Affirmations Just don't tell him they're called positive affirmations. All guys want to hear that they are really sexy and good in bed. Just like women, men need to hear that their women are happy with how they look and what they do. It makes them feel appreciated, and it's also a turn on for them. This also plays into being more vocal in bed, which is closer to the top of his list - don't be afraid to scream about how amazing he is. Some of us do care about you more than ourselves in the bedroom. i'd rather go down on you and make you cum then get a bj. 

6. A Strip Show Men love to watch a woman strip - it's just a fact of life. It ranks in at number 6 because it probably isn't something he wants all the time. The way to a man's heart is through his senses, especially his eyes. As visual creatures, they love to see their woman tease and get naked in front of them. So turn on some music, dress up in a little outfit, and put on a show. If you don't get it quite right the first time, he won't mind - after all, practice makes perfect.

5. Role Playing Again, this is not something most men want to do every night, hence the lower ranking. Don't be afraid to role play. Pretending to be someone else for a night isn't going to inspire your man to actually go spend a night with someone else. In fact, he'll probably like it so much that you'll have no problem keeping him around for the long haul. Ask your guy who he might like you to pretend to be and then go shopping for the costume together. This is not for every man tho.

4. Lingerie Lingerie is so, so important. Some women seem to think that guys will hit anything that moves, but we actually like it when it is clear that our woman is making an effort. For instance, mismatched bras and panties are kind of a turn off for some guys. So invest in some really sexy (and matching) lingerie. He'll want to see you in and then immediately out of it, but nevertheless, it is still important. Never skimp on sexy lingerie, and always have it handy.

3. Being More Vocal In Bed In other words, screaming at the top of your lungs that you love whatever he's doing. Men start going crazy when they can tell that their women really likes what is happening at the moment in the bedroom. So next time you get busy, go a little overboard when he does something you like. It'll make him feel more confident and he may start trying things that he's never done before. (not all men will go crazy on their own but it helps if you show us how to make you go crazy)

2. Staying In Good Shape You don't have to look like Jennifer Lopez, but guys do prefer it if their lady stays in shape and takes care of herself, inside and out. A boyfriend or husband loves it when you smell good, your clothes are clean, and you are in good shape. You want him to stay healthy, so offer that to him as well. Men are more likely to take care of themselves if you are doing the same. It is also a good excuse to spend more money on the things you love, right girls? He'll be totally cool with you spending more of the budget on some extra perfume, makeup, and skinny jeans as long as he benefits, too.

1. Trying New Things In Bed He would like to try new positions, role playing or even some more exotic types of sex, but you have been closed to things like that because either you're shy or had a bad experience in the past. Just try to listen to him and do your best to consider what he's saying. Communication and openness to anything new is crucial to a fun, loving relationship. Keep this in mind -- if you try something that is important to him, he'll be more likely to give your fantasy a shot, too.

Dear Ladys

Please don't assume that guys won't care where you are, because we do. 
It makes us feel secure to know that our girlfriends aren't off flirting with guys we've never heard of, another thing is please don't hump everything that walks into the room. We don't care if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other guys, but when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room then you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us. yeah, it pisses us off. It also doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there. when we tell you you're pretty, beautiful, gorgeous, cute, or stunning we mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong because doing that confuses some, makes others feel like they're doing something wrong and the rest We'll stop trying to convince you after some time. Soon you will start to think that he doesn't love you or he thinks your ugly. We just don't want to fight and the sexiest thing about a girl is her confidence. (well thats what i think) 

When a guy holds the door open for you, and/or offers to pay for dinner please dont jump the gun and assume that he wants something from you. Some of us were tought to be gentleman others... i don't know what happen. I know that there are lots of guys just looking for sex but some do want more. I know some of you like to pay your own way and thats fine also just explain to the guy. Some of you dont like P.D.A and thats fine for most guys but some may think hes the 2nd guy, you dont like him, your trying to use him, or your trying to hide the fact that your with him. Please explain so we understand THANK YOU. When we take you to some place, you don't have to get dressed up for us. The places themselves is different. We may not tell you to put on a dress and we may be vague about what we say. an example (hey hun, im taking you out some where NICE tonight or i know a good RESTAURANT to eat at.) we are trying at this point to take you on a nice date. for hangout cloths we'll say something like (lets get something to eat, or lets meet with friends for dinner) If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have, put on every kind of makeup you own just to keep a hold of us.
We like you for WHO you are and not WHAT you put on. Sex stuff thats something you'll have to talk to your man about. 

Ladys, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don't wait for him to change. Ditch his sorry, disgrace-to-the-male-population ass, and find someone who will treat you with utter respect. Someone who will honor your morals, and 
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest. Please dont judge them if its a medical condition.