Just Another Guy's blog: "Our life"

I am was going to add an entry to this. But Our Life has ended.

It is only my life now.

My wife has had a stroke that occurred on her brain stem. I am bringing her home for hospice this week.
Sadly I have opted to remove fluid and food intake and have her placed on a morphine drip. she has lost speech, swallowing and the use of her arms and legs. We had told each other a long time ago that we did not want to live as vegatables.

Hardest decision I have ever made.

Hello everyone! The wife and I just celebrated our 22nd Anniversary this past weekend. We went camping of all things to do. We had to hike about 1000 yards with a dolly to reach the camp site. We were second guessing ourselves up until the point that the sun went down. We brought in our anniversary at mid-night by laying totally naked outside holding hands looking at the lake and stars. A very nice constant breeeze was blowing that we allowed to kiss every part of our body. When we woke up the next morning I made coffee and breakfast burritos to start the day off. We swam, and floated, and played Backgammon, and even went skinny dipping. Kim kept me in a state of erection all day, and enjoyed the "pressure" I was feeling. We had a family of ducks that adopted us and joined us on the camp site. They came around all day long to be fed. The little ducklings were so cute. We also had many baby rabbits that were on our site. We now have probably the best anniversary to remember for a long time. What we were able to experience camping, we never would have felt had we just gone to dinner or a hotel. For times like this that we shared, I am ready for another 22 years. The pictures that I posted were actually taken with a video camera. We found out too late the lense was a little dirty. But oh well, you can see we definetly had fun even if they are not the best pictures.

Well, life and my marriage both are both going well for the first time in a very long time. The wife and I found one night while we were talking, that she was not doing certain things because I was not paying attention to her, and I was not paying attention to her because she was not doing certain things. We have been in a vicious circle for a very long time. It goes to show what can happen when two hard heads get something set in their minds without talking to each other. We have found the feeling we had a very long time ago when we met. It is nice to be able to sit next to each other and watch TV, or sit in the back yard, talk, walk, play, or do what ever together and feel the same happiness and sense of comfort we felt a long time ago. I am sure we will still argue and agree on everything, but I know it will never again get as bad as it was. Thank goodness 22 years did not go down the drain. As always, I wish you and yours the best, and never let pride and a hard head destroy what is most important to you. Bobby

My wife recently deleted her CT account because of women on here who called her a whore and had other very bad things to say about and to her. I want everyone to know that those un-named people are no longer on my friends list. My wife and I met in 1985 at a strip poker party. She came into town on her way to get married. The people holding the party lived down the way from me in the apartments. It started out as just a regular party and then as everyone got drunk it turned into strip poker. Kim and I were the first two to be naked and had to spend the rest of the party that way until a winner was declared. We had a lot of fun and I invited her to my apartment for a night of "fun". We have been together ever since. She cancelled her wedding. And I gave up the single life. We got married on July 12th 1986. Since the time we got married the longest time we spent apart was caused by an employer and was not our decission. The Army caused a 6 month separation awaiting her to come to Germany and a year for Desert Storm. My current employer laid me off here in Plano and I took a position in St. Louis for a year and then transferred back to Plano. What I am trying to say, is that even though we went through a time of trouble in our marriage, it was a shorter time frame than what we were forced to go through by outside influence throughout our marriage. So, do not think that I don't love my wife nor her me. We have finally reached a point in our life where we don't have to answer to anyone and are very happily married to each other. We also do not have any secrets, nor do we harbor jealousy. We have some good years left in our lives that we intend on having fun and exploring different things. So if you want to be my friend, you must respect her as well.