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What are you waiting for?
Simone, why don't you date?
Why are you single?
Why do you curve every guy that approaches you?
Ah, the questions that I get ask on here and in life in general. I haven't posted in a while and decided to break this down for some of my friends and such.
DISCLAMIER: I am not trying to hurt anyone with my personal opinion, so don't take anything that I am about to say as a personal attack.
To answer long story short, I don't date because I am not interested in either sex at this time, although I am bi.
Long Story.... I have been in the dating scene since before Netflix and Chill became an everyday term in the Urban Dictionary. I have found that want I am looking for, is something that does not exist. I want to find someone that is my equal and does not treat me like I am a piece of property. That means that I don't want to be an object. About 98% of the men on this site alone, hit with the
"Hey sexy"
"You are so sexy baby"
Followed by the usual:
"Can I get to know you?"
How about no my guy....See, in my opinion dating doesn't exist anymore. All people want is a friend with benifits, people want all of the benefits of being in a relationship without commiting to one person because you fear you are going to miss out on someone better. I don't date because dating has been a sick game where you hang on to one person, and make that person develop feelings for you while you continue looking for something "better." And that person that catches the said "feelings" is the only one that gets hurt. Or it's a game of attraction, if you aren't thin, curvy, pretty, althletic, sexy, short, tall, or handsome enough, you are overlooked no matter how good your personality is, no matter how well you would take care of that person, or even how much you can love them. Love isn't enough anymore. People don't get married for love you silly goose. People get married for what you have and what you can give them. Oh, you don't have a house, an expensive car, a bank account with thousands of dollars in it...then there is nothing you can do for anyone. People get married for social and econmic reasons regardless of whether they love the person or not.
I don't date because I am not attracted to how men or women approach others. You assume too much and you are jaded about what you should expect from the other person.
From my experience... ME: Post a sexy picture because I love how I look
MEN: Oh, you must want sex, let me send you a dick pick.
ME: I have been celibate for 3 years. No I don't want sex
MEN: You are a whore, you are a cunt, you are a slut for posting that picture and misleading me
ME: WTF???
TRIGGER WARNING!!!! TRIGGER WARNING!!!! TRIGGER WARNING!!!!!
This is why rape culture is a thing. And speaking as a rape victim, I am reclaiming my time and my body. Because guess what, I was wearing a tshirt and sweats when I was raped...do you think I deserved it based on that?
I post my pictures because I am just now accepting my body and loving myself. You going to call everyone who is naked a whore because they won't have sex with you? Are you going to throw a fit for every sexy picture you see because the girls won't flash you her pussy? Last I checked, this is my body to with what I please.
I don't date because men and women alike have continually proved me right in the fact of you all want one thing, and that is sex. Since I have been celibate and have taken sex off the table, I get called every name under the sun. Did I say I would never have sex, nope, no I didn't. I am just saying that I don't want that to be the only reason why someone approaches me.
its funny how boring the world seems when you get out of high school or college and settle into your job. I learned over the years that life is what you make it. And so far...i have made life very mundane for myself and it is time for me to break out of that before i go crazy.
When we were children we used to be so carefree and wreckless. And we didnt care what anyone said to us. We lived and enjoyed discovering new things that we knew nothing about. What happened to that when we got older?
I cant live like that anymore....I refuse to;so,i have made a list....simliar to a bucket list of things that i am going to do or try. Sounds like a good idea right? Anyway, i have at least 100 things on this list.
Life is too short to live in a box. I am going to try everything once...and somethings maybe more than once.
Any good ideas of what to do or where to go?
