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I'm beginning to see it as increasingly important to not just "go along" with "traditional" customs and celebrations to be polite, and not make waves. I'm starting to see it as important to take a stand, and not just allow people who would have their beliefs usurp all others, control the popular perception of history and "thruthiness." Consequently, I'm no longer going to celebrate Thanksgiving. And I'm not just going to not celebrate it. I'm going to not celebrate it in a very open, and opinionated way. Thanksgiving is not about the founding and establishment of the United States as a sovereign nation. Thanksgiving is not a religious holiday. And the founding and establishment of the United States as a sovereign nation is not a religious phenomenon. And I am fed up with people trying to shove their perception of any of that down my throat. Important things that happened in history are not important, and are not recognized or celebrated, because there happened to be a Christian there. There are very few traditions and celebrations that we recognize today that actually had anything to do with Christianity, in reality. Christianity has just usurped just about everything to make it seem that way. The only unique, true and exclusive holiday that celebrates the founding and establishment of the United States as a sovereign nation is Independence Day. NOT a religious holiday, by any stretch of the imagination. Thanksgiving is about noting the survival of a group of Christian pilgrims who traveled across an ocean to settle here. And they would not have survived were it not for the help of the PAGANS who already lived here. The pilgrims really had nothing to do with the founding of the United States. They were dead by then. As long as it was up to them, the white settlers here remained under British rule. The fact that they were Christians is incidental, by the way. It's the fact that they survived, that is celebrated at Thanksgiving. And considering who saved their asses, if it is a religious celebration, it should be a pagan one. The only reason that Thankgiving is now as big a holiday as it is, in the United State, is it's proximity to Christmas. And it's the retail phenomenon that surrounds Thanksgiving and Christmas that keeps those holidays as important as they are, in the United States. Macy's, Gimbal's and Bloomingdale's made Thanksgiving and Christmas what they are. Pilgrims and Jesus Christ did not. Deal with it.

People's perception and attitudes can be so fucked up! Oh, yea, a fat woman is totally disgusting for posting pics on the internet that are at all suggestive or show any part of her body. But it's perfectly acceptable to have women in postage stamp bikinis and thongs plastered across billboards along the freeway, or downtown on Main Street. Nevermind all over the internet! Nothing wrong with men salivating over thin women! That's normal! But if they're doing it over fat women, they have a fetish! Bullshit! Bigots! Ignorant, self-hating, fat phobic bigots!

This morning I got a nasty message from some fat chick saying I was disgusting because of the pics I've posted on MySpace (same as the SFW ones I've posted here). Here's my response to her, after I shot back an initial "Fuck off bitch!", checked out her profile, blogs and pics, and gave it some thought: I spent some time checking out your profile and blog. Girl, you're a mess. My initial reaction to your hateful behavior wasn't because I actually care what you think. I don't. But being confronted with an attack, particularly a passive-aggressive one where the subject line implies a friendly greeting, then inside is a hateful, vitriolic rant, triggers stuff that has nothing to do with the current situation. That's a normal response to being attacked by unwarranted negative criticism. I like to try and figure people out, though, and it didn't take long to get your number. You say I'm disgusting and it's not because I'm fat. So have you sent similar hate mail to thin women who are showing their bodies on MySpace? I doubt it. Because it's precisely about being fat. Not about me being fat though. It's about you hating yourself for being fat. And it's so painfully obvious that you do. In your pics you're trying your damnedest to be "sexy" and alluring, while you have clothes buttoned up to the neck. You desperately want attention and approval for being "sexy", yet you're totally ashamed of your body. Honey, it just screams CONFUSED. Would you like some clues about why you attract "weirdos"? I've met many men I first connected with on the internet, and there's been nary a "weirdo" among them. I've made lots of great guy friends, even friends with benefits, even had a boyfriend or two when we really clicked and it felt right. I show off my body on the net, yet I'm savvy and smart enough to not choose the "weirdos". Hmmmmm...what's up with that? The thing is, I've never been desperate for love and you so obviously are. I've never tried to parlay sex on a first meeting into a love relationship and you so obviously do. You behave like a slut because you think it will get you love, and you hate yourself for it. So you think you have to justify it to the world to get approval for your choices and be absolved. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a slut mind you. There is something wrong with having sex for any reason other than just enjoying sex. (Except planned procreation.) I only get occasional hate mail from females for what I do on the internet. I get a whole lot more messages from females telling me how much they admire what I do, and my courage for doing it. And they wish they had the guts. I don't do it for the men. I do it for me. And for Fat Pride. To show the world that fat bodies are beautiful, too. I understand that you don't believe they are, and that you hate yours. I hope you get over that someday. In the meantime, why don't you stop projecting your shame onto other people. Unless you have children, there's not one person on the planet who needs your approval, or who needs to deal with your painful feelings that you don't know how to deal with. Try focusing on pulling your head out of your ass where men and sex are concerned. And have a nice weekend. Korry

I understand in order to go beyond level 10-Friend of CherryTap, a salute pic has to be posted. I meant to do one this weekend, but I didn't get it done. I think the salute pic is a great idea. I'm sure every site has it's share of fakes, and I like the idea of having some way to separate the wheat from the chaff. I will be posting a salute very soon! I've seen a few profiles on here that seem questionable to me. As to whether they're real people or not, or at least whether what they're "showing" is 100% real. In some cases they even have verified salutes posted, and they still seem questionable to me. Just because the face appears to match, doesn't mean some things in many of the posted pics haven't been morphed or altered. I guess in the grand scheme of things, who really cares? It's just a web site, and if people like the visuals they're getting, from someone they'll never actually meet anyway, does it matter what's real and what isn't? Maybe not. But here's a little something about me. Myself and my photos are 100% natural and real. I do wear make-up in my pics, and my hair color is chemically altered, but other than that, what you see is the real me. I've never been surgically altered in any way. In fact, the only surgery I've ever had in my life is a tonsilectomy! My pics are real. They are not re-touched, air brushed, cleaned, morphed, photo shopped or altered in any way. I do choose flattering light, and I am wearing make-up and I'm lucky enough to be fairly photogenic. I may not look that good every day! But it is really me. And my soon to be posted salute will prove it! ;)

by David Bach The arrival of the new year marks a symbolic time for fresh starts. Many of us take it as an opportunity to set goals, contemplate decisions, and renew commitments. It's special because of the revitalized sense of hope it brings. Before you make your New Year's resolutions for 2007, I'd like to share some thoughts about how it's never too late to start living a rich life. The Live Rich Factor Most people believe that if they just had more money, the things that make them unhappy would disappear and their lives would be better. The truth is that your life can be better without more money. It can be better today, but you need to make some decisions and take some actions. You don't need me to tell you what will make you happy -- only you know that truth. I believe each of us has the power to discover our purpose and become joyful in the process of journeying toward that purpose. It's not easy, however. Nothing important and meaningful ever is. What you need to do is create what I call the "Live Rich Factor" in your life. I call it this because those who find the purpose that leads them to joy are truly the luckiest people in the world, because they're living richly. There are five basic principles involved in creating your Live Rich Factor: Principle 1: Give Yourself a Break We all tell ourselves the story of the one that got away. You can't move forward if you spend time focusing on what you shoulda-woulda-coulda done in 2006 or before. It's over, and its time to move on. The fastest way I know to do this is to write all of your regrets down on paper. Make a list of all your personal and financial if-onlys. For example, "If only I had saved more money. If only I hadn't quit that job. If only I hadn't taken the job I have." You get the idea. After reading the list aloud to yourself, get rid of it. Let it all go by literally burning the list (safely). Now you're ready for a fresh start in 2007 -- a new beginning. Principle 2: Get Connected with Your Truth The hardest thing to do is be honest with yourself. Asking yourself some key questions will lead you to some amazing discoveries, and possibly motivate you to do what it takes to create the life you envision for yourself. I suggest writing your (honest) answers to the following questions in a new journal for the new year: What makes you happy at work? What makes you happy at home? What makes you happy with your friends and family? What makes you happy when you're by yourself? What do you love to do? What would you do with your life today if you weren't afraid of failure? What's not working in your life? What are you currently doing that prevents you from experiencing joy? What's working in your life? Who's not working in your life? Who in your life is subtracting value from and adding misery to it? Can you fix any of these relationships, or should you let them go from your life? What relationships are working in your life? If we were getting together one year from today, what would have to happen for you to be able to tell me that you now have more joy in your life? What's the single most important thing you've learned about yourself as a result of answering these questions? You'll find that by putting your answers down on paper, they'll become clear more quickly and the actions you need to take more obvious and easier to initiate. Principle 3: Stop Judging Yourself Be nicer to yourself in 2007. Many people talk to themselves in a way they would never accept from a stranger, friend, or loved one. If this describes you, try stopping the negative conversations you have with yourself immediately. For one week, simply commit to saying "stop it" when you think a negative thought about yourself. If you're in the habit of saying negative things to yourself, you'll find this is one of the most difficult exercises you'll ever do. Carry a notepad with you and make a mark each time you catch yourself thinking negatively. You'll find that as the days go by, your negative thinking can quickly be reduced. Principle 4: Stop Judging Others It's hard to be joyful when you're always judging others. In fact, it's close to impossible. Judging others creates a huge amount of stress in our lives. It affects our marriages and our relationships with our kids as well as the way we relate to friends, co-workers, and society in general. We're not here to judge one another. The next time you find yourself upset at someone or some situation, catch yourself and ask, "Are you judging?" Judging others is often an unconscious habit. But it's a habit that can be changed the moment you decide to stop doing it. Principle 5 : Pursue Fun with a Vengeance It's OK to pursue fun. It's what children do. My greatest joy these days is the simple pleasure of playing with my three-year-old son, Jack. This holiday season with Jack taught me the simple power of pursuing fun -- again and again. What was fun for Jack this Christmas? It turns out it wasn't the Big Wheel that my wife, Michelle, and I stayed up so late building on Christmas Eve. And it wasn't the Star Wars Lego toy (although he was pretty excited about that). Instead, what Jack found the most fun was a new game I made up to keep him entertained. The game was called Geronimo -- and it involved Jack jumping from the bed onto a stack of pillows yelling "Geronimo!" This silly little game ended up bringing us both hours of fun. The price of the game: nothing. The fun: priceless. And the laughs? Endless. Why do we stop pursing fun as we get older? Fun shouldn't be squeezed into a few weeks of vacation each year. And it shouldn't be squeezed into the last chapter of your life when you "get to" retire. Fun deserves to be a part of your life now -- in 2007. But fun doesn't just happen. You have to make it a priority in your life or it'll go missing. Life's too short to not have it. So here's to a fun, happy, and healthy New Year. Cheers!