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(repost) Everyday I get what I call "Loser Mail" from random guys saying vulgar or degrading things...or just pure stupid...I deal with the daily uncreative stupid "your hott, wanna chat?" & press delete as usual, but there are just soooo many damn guys that are such Asses. Both women & men are to blame for the behavior of these losers too...the men for being so disrespectful & the women for accepting this out of their desperation to not be alone. On a daily I get such low class remarks as... -Will u let me make u cum? -what r u up to tonight, how bout we hook up? -You can go commando on me anytime, sweetie. You're hereby presented with my "Highly Lickable" award! -You are very very sexy! come over - I'm in town for the weekend and looking for someone to play with tonight? What are your plans? I'm staying at the ... (wtf, y would he think thats possible??) -Lets fuck -Can I lick ur pussy all night long? -I'd like to do that ass -go commando over here Ill be your humble servant. (yeah, this idiot kept running his mouth of how much serving he'd like to do until I told him where it was at...now all the sudden I'm a bitch that he would never want...lol yeah right) You are gorgeous, but you probally get that all the time. So, i guess ill just say that you put the "ner" in boner hahahaha. and blah blah blah, they get much worse, but I'll spare ya...anyways I don't see why the guys take the time to write this kinda shit to girls, I'm not a piece of meat, I'm not gonna sleep with a stranger, & I have class so don't write me if ur one of these losers! It gets old real fast and makes me wonder why they have to have such strick laws on murder...I mean, what if the person deserved it??? Any guy that talks to a woman like this is a piece of shit that deserves to have his dick chopped up & force fed to him, then his finger nails pulled out, & his spine severed...because ppl that act like that & say those things are not ppl who deserve to live...their just bad ppl that have no respect for anyone & obviously should of been aborted. Guys..if ur reading this & u want to write me for the first time...plz don't waste ur time writing some one line sentence...I don't bother to read letters that have nothing in them. I'm not desperate to find anyone, I'm on here for my friends, I would rather the losers not bother writing at all to not waste my time...and about my title...u guys that are acting like this, are just pushing women to realize how much better life is without men in it...men keep thinking how hott it is for us women to want women, but duh...if we jump that way & like it, we don't want u anymore! Quit showing us how much ur not needed! So far u guys are lucky u haven't pushed me that far yet....but box is looking better & better everyday. Start acting like gentlemen again, theres no real reason to act like a pig. I just don't get men anymore...if u don't sleep with them for nothing, they call u a prude, if u sleep with them for nothing ur a slut...I guess what it really is that makes men act like this is most of them have a secret hatred of women & want to make them feel bad no matter what they do...it makes them feel better...like their deep seeded problems w/ they're mommy or something...go suck a dick & get it over with ya piss babies...we women are sick of dealing with your baggage & shit! No time for losers

~~~I thought this was cool letter and had to repost....Thanks to all that serve and their families :)~~~ Dear Military Wife, I am an American woman that has no idea what is going on in the military other than what I hear on the news. I have never had to let go of someone so that they could go fight for people that they didn't know, people that sometimes do not appreciate or understand what they are fighting for. I have never had a sleepless night of worry because of a report that another bomb has exploded and I still haven't heard from my husband. I have never had to wait for months on end to hold the one that I loved so. I have never had to tell my children that daddy wasn't coming home tonight because he was so far away fighting for something that they aren't yet old enough to understand. I have never had to hold my head high and suppress the tears as I hear that it will be at least another six months of separation before my loved one gets to come home. I have never had to deal with a holiday away from the one that I thought I would share every day of my life with. And I have never had to feel the panic rising in my heart at the sound of a ringing phone or knock at the door for fear that it is the news that everyone is terrified of getting. For the reasons listed above, I can not tell you that I understand how you feel. I can not tell you that you must be strong. I can not say that you shouldn't be angry, because you "knew what you were getting into when you married a military man". I can not say these things because I have never had to walk in your shoes. What I can say for certain is that because of your unselfish acts of bravery and your husbands willingness to stand up for those who see him as "just another soldier" - - I will never have to walk in your shoes. I do understand that as a military wife you are expected to uphold a certain amount of control, but I never understood how you could do it, until now. I have figured out that you are not like other women. You are of a special breed. You have a strength within you that holds life together in the darkest of hours, a strength of which I will never possess. The faith you have is what makes you stand out in a crowd; it makes you glow with emotion and swell with pride at the mention of The United States of America. You are a special lady, a wonderful partner and a glorious American. I have more respect for your husband than I could ever tell you, but until recently I never thought much about those that the soldier leaves at home during deployment. Until this moment I could never put into words exactly what America meant to me. Until this moment, I had no real reason to.... Until I heard of yo u. Your husband and his military family hold this nation close, safe from those who wish to hurt us...but you and those like you are the backbone of the American family. You keep the wheels in motion and the hearts alive while most would just break completely down. Military families make this nation what it is today. You give us all hope and you emit a warming light at the end of a long dark tunnel. Because of you and your family...I am able to be me. I am able to have my family. I am able to walk free in this great land. Because of you and your family, I can look ahead to the future with the knowledge that life is going to be okay. Because of you and your family, I can awake to a new day, everyday. I realize that you are a stronger person than I will ever be because of these things and I just wanted to take the time today to say thank you to you and your family for allowing me that freedom. I will never b e able to repay this debt to you, as it is unmatchable. However, I hope that you know that no matter where you are... what you are doing... what has happened today... or what will happen tomorrow... Your husband will NEVER be "just another soldier" to me.... And you, dear sweet lady, will never be forgotten. You are all in my prayer's everyday and I pray that God will bring you back together with your loved one safely. May God Bless You If you are a Military Spouse or know one, repost this and say THANK YOU. They too make daily sacrifices while their spouse serve our country

Over the past few weeks, I have talked to many people who are about to get into a relationship or just ended one. I believe four things need to happen in order for a relationship to work. By talking to them and them listening to me, we all agree that these are needed. Acceptance - Accept the person for who they are. Don't try to change them. It will not happen. That person needs to want to change. Don't force it on them. Let them do it willingly. If you don't like something about them, then either deal with it or move on. Everyone has something that someone else does not like about them. There is no such thing as the perfect person. Look at them. Does the annoying things they do outweigh the good in them? Does the bad asshole, dick, bitch side outshadow the good? If that is the case, move on. Or does the good shine so bright that the bad annoying side is just a dark smudge next to the good? Are you able to accept them as a whole? Bad hand in hand with the good? Then keep them. If not, walk on. Communication - One of the biggest things that so many people don't understand. Sure you two can talk, but have you ever listened? You may hear what is being said, but do you hear what is not being said? Actions speak louder than words. Body language does say a lot. Do they interrupt? hang up on you? Walk away? Just get defensive? Do they even look at you? Communication is more than just talking. Trust - The biggest out of my four is this one. Without trust, you have nothing. If you can't trust the person and believe the person or even be honest with the person, you got nothing. So fragile yet so strong. Once broken, once gone, trust is impossible to get back. Trust is needed. So many times I have seen people stay with someone even though the trust was gone. The nightmare that they put themselves through all because they did not trust someone. Trust... only five letters, but so much wieght behind them. I have seen it been tested by rumors and suspicions, but if trust never was there, then there was no relationship. Arguements - I don't care how perfect the relationship is, if you don't have a fight, then you don't really truly know someone. This is when the true side of someone comes out. How are they going to be? Clam up? Not listen? Get defensive? Just attack? Bring up old dead issues? Get violent? Or just roll over and play dead? This is the second most important thing in a relationship. You need a fight. A big fight. Something to test the relationship. This is where you find out if it is worth fighting for. If the relationship is worth saving. Does the person always give in? Do they not listen to you? Or do they make you feel like shit to the point of tears and drinking? This is what I believe needs to happen to have a relationship with someone. Not just a serious one, but any. Friendship, boyfriend / girlfriend, or any. IF A MAN WANTS YOU If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and You're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him on your radar but get to know others