tag:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-50382008-03-14T17:17:36-07:00Tips about RealationshipsA fubar user blog.Dynimitehttp://email@example.com:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-5038.7353772008-03-14T17:17:36-07:002008-03-14T17:17:36-07:005 Mistakes That Make Women "Fake Out"5 Mistakes That Make Women "Flake Out"
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***DATING QUESTION FROM READER***
I will try to keep this short, but if you don't
read it all, just refer to the question at the
bottom regarding the question.
Okay, I have read through all of your newsletters
ever since I signed up for the service & purchased
On a Tuesday I am out with a friend & we bump into
his ex & her roommate. Both girls are 9's (pushing
10's). I immediately go to work! She's wearing a
turtle neck sweater (I see a weak spot) so I start
calling her "Tippy the Turtle" all night. She acts
all defensive about it, but keeps laughing &
asking me WHY, WHY, WHY do you keep calling me
that?...So I just keep pouring it on. I bust on
her humorously every chance I get. Within 2 hours,
she's leaning on me, squeezing me & following me
around the club like a puppy..... SO, we go to
another club & I go to the bar to get a drink and
the waitress at the bar (whom I know from being
there in the past) asks me why I have never asked
HER to go out & do anything (LIGHT BULB GOES ON).
So I tell her it's "because I don't have a way to
get a hold of her". So she pulls out a dollar bill
from her money holder & writes her number down and
gives it to me (this girl is a solid 10 by the
way... and trust me, IM PICKY!). Needless to say,
IM STOKED! So I tease her a little about her name
(because her name is B...a guys name), take the
number & go back to my friend & the girls.....
Everything is great RIGHT????
Now the problem & the question:
I ask a friend of mine about her (the waitress).
He works at the same night club she does. He said
that she was "all about money". He also told me
that she just quit her job that weekend & didn't
work there anymore...
So I called her on the following Sunday (gave it
about 5 days). I decided to check this "money
thing" out in a humorous way. When she finally
realized who I was (which kinda pissed me off that
I had to explain to her who I was on the phone...I
went as far as suggesting that I hang up & call
back & try this again) I told her that I heard
she quit her job & then asked her "How are you
going to take me to lunch & pay my way if you
don't have a job"? I thought it was funny & was
awaiting a laugh, but she responded with "why do
you have to start the conversation off like that?
I had to support my last 2 boyfriends, so don't go
there". Needless to say I'm shocked & respond with
"Its becoming a habit huh?"...and then heard
silence & broke the silence with "I'm just giving
you sh**!" (I know, I know....a WUSS moment)
SO, I set a simple meeting with her (for some
lunch before I had to go to work) for that same
Thursday (today actually...4 days later). She said
the date & time were cool so I closed the deal
(kept the phone call at about 3-4 minutes). Before
I hung up she said "why don't you call me between
now & then so we can talk". Well I'm picking up on
that one right away, so I respond with. What would
be the point in that? We are getting together
Thursday to talk". And we said our goodbyes & that
NOW I get a phone call 3 hours before we have to
meet & she tells me some BS story about her
brother coming in town & she can't meet me for
lunch. Well I'm not stupid, and I just had another
girl cancel in a similar fashion on me last night.
DUHH!!!... So my question is this:
QUESTION: If a girl cancels on you, how should you
really handle it? Especially if you know her
excuse is bull sh**?!?! (I can pick liars out a
mile away... its a gift!). I realize she maybe
testing me, but when a girl expresses interest in
YOU & makes it a point to make sure that YOU leave
WITH HER PHONE NUMBER, how should you handle it
when they cancel last minute with a lame ass
excuse? My feelings are to talk to them in a manor
making them feel as stupid as they think YOU are.
When she tells me her brother is going to be in
town & she had to cancel THREE HOURS before we
meet, I felt like saying "Well I gave you 4 days
notice to meet me for ONE hour. Your brother
hasn't seen you in six months & you didn't know
this when we talked the first time??"
I was just real quiet & said nothing when she fed
me this "Line" & responded with "ok, whatever...
maybe some other time...you have my number" &
that was the end of the conversation, I hung up.
Are they testing to see if you WILL be an a**hole
(DO THEY WANT YOU TO?), or are they testing to see
if you will be sympathetic (WHICH WOULD BE
BAD)..... Personally, I want to be an asshole
because I get kind of upset with flakey people in
Also, do you think I should ever call & set a date
up again with a woman like this, or did I already
OK, first things first.
You really have the right idea here. Your
thinking is right on, and your use of the Cocky &
Funny attitude is great!
And I'm guessing that the REASON why the cute
waitress started asking why you never ask her out
is BECAUSE you showed up with a hot girl that was
chasing you around.
It certainly helps the stock value when you're
seen around with a hottie.
I'd love to talk more about all the RIGHT
things you did, but, alas, I'm going to focus this
newsletter on the WRONG things you did.
Now, please don't take any of what I'm about to
tell you PERSONALLY, because it's all in good fun.
But pay attention, because by making fun of you
in a public newsletter (that many thousands of
guys read) only hurts a little (but remember the
joy I'm getting from it, and maybe you'll feel
MISTAKE #1: LISTENING TO YOUR FRIEND
Dude, what are you thinking?
When your friend who worked with her told you
that she was "all about money", it probably meant:
- He was in love with her.
- She wasn't interested in him.
- He tried to buy her dinner and gifts, but she
only wanted to be friends.
- He hated the idea that you were going to date
- He wanted to put you off the trail.
Think about it.
MISTAKE #2: WAITING 5 DAYS TO CALL HER.
Now, of course you don't want to call a woman
ten seconds after you meet her and say, "Hi, I'm
the needy dork you just gave your number to...".
But think about it...
This girl works in a BAR. She meets about a
million guys every night.
She probably gives her number to more guys
every week than you have FRIENDS.
I would have called her the next evening... two
days later at the most.
This way she'll at least REMEMBER you.
And I would have said "You know, I've never had
a woman PAY ME to call her. But this dollar is
only going to buy you about 15 seconds. You can
ask me what I'm wearing or something, and then
you'll have to give me a Visa card to continue the
You're good with the Cocky & Funny, but you
should get THIS to make yourself KILLER:
MISTAKE #3: DISCUSSING THE "MONEY THING" ON THE
What are you thinking... bringing up something
like this by telling her that you heard she quit
Something like this at the beginning of a first
call CAN'T go anywhere but a BAD place.
I can see what you were trying to do, but you
were on a slippery slope, and you were only
Save the ball busting for when you're alone
with her in person.
This is where you REALLY screwed up, man.
At this point she was probably thinking "What
the hell is this guy talking about?" because it
was a sensitive subject for her, and you didn't
have enough of a connection with her to be talking
to her about this topic. Too early.
I'm going to say that you basically SET HER UP
to flake on you.
Shortly after that, she gave you the NEON SIGN
of "why don't you call me between now and then so
we can talk".
TRANSLATION: "I'm going to flake on you for
SURE, but I just don't want the confrontation
right now, so I'll put doubt in your mind".
MISTAKE #4: LETTING HER THINK THAT FLAKING WAS OK
When you just let the "call me between now and
then" comment go by and hung up, you made a big
Right then and there you should have STOPPED
the conversation and said something to the effect
"Whoa. I'll tell you what, I have a pet peeve,
and I HATE it when people flake out on me. So, if
you're gonna flake, just tell me now. I'm only
going to make plans if you're CERTAIN that you're
going to be there."
Now, a lot of times when you say something like
this, you'll scare a woman off. But it's worth it.
The last thing you need in your life is a flaky
Better to get it handled early on.
But, if she's NOT a flaky woman... but only
trying to figure out how to flake on YOU because
you acted like a DUMB ASS, then this might change
When a woman sees you standing up for yourself,
and basically saying "Look, if you're going to
flake out or be late, then I don't want to meet
you", it shows her beyond the shadow of a doubt
that YOUR TIME is more important to you than HER.
This is a good thing.
This kind of comment will often result in a
woman saying "No, no... I'll be there. I'll be
MISTAKE #5: LETTING HER ACTUALLY FLAKE ON YOU
If a woman called me three hours before we were
supposed to meet and said, "Oh, my long lost
brother is coming to town..." I would say:
"Well thanks for the three hours notice. What
are you going to do to make this up to me?"
NOW IS THE TIME TO BUST BALLS!
Of course, you don't want to do it in an
emotional, hurtful way... or in a way that lets
her know that you have been upset by her.
I'll mention one thing here... I have a friend
who has gotten tired of women flaking out on him.
So he now calls THEM on the day he's supposed to
meet them for the first date, and FLAKES ON THEM.
He tells me that this works like a charm, and
they always show up for the next planned meeting.
Now, I personally don't like the idea of lying
to or deceiving women, but it's an interesting
In the final analysis, I'd say that you screwed
up in the beginning, and created your own
Instead of saying, "I heard you quit your job"
(which makes you sound like an amateur stalker),
you should have just said a few charming things,
set up a meeting with her, and gotten off the
That probably would have prevented your
Which leads me to another idea...
EVERY STEP with a woman will go MUCH SMOOTHER
if you set it up well beforehand.
My experience is that most guys CREATE THEIR
OWN PROBLEMS with women, then come to me to solve
Isn't it a much better idea to not run into
these problems in the first place?
I mean, you'll never reach a point where you
never have any problems with women, but you sure
can prevent and eliminate about 80% of them by
just knowing what to do to set up each step with
women, and how to respond to certain situations.
Where's the best place to learn how to do just
Of course, my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
One of the most important things you can do to
make your dating life go more smoothly is to
REALLY get your "inner game" together.
By this, I mean how you think about women and
dating, what you believe, how you see the world,
and how you psychologically respond to common
One of the things that separates my materials
from all the other "dating" stuff out there is the
fact that I teach the "inner game" at a DEEP
I think it's important to understand what
ATTRACTION is, and how to create it (which is
something you were NOT doing with this woman on
You must understand that there's a time and
place for everything, and if you screw something
up because you DIDN'T KNOW what to do in a certain
situation, the only clue you're going to have is
that the woman just disappears.
In other words, unless you understand what the
RIGHT thing to do is, you might very well keep
doing a WRONG thing (or many of them) without
realizing that you're even making a mistake.
Like I said, my Advanced Dating Techniques
Program is the answer. I spend several HOURS going
over the "inner game" and ATTRACTION... and
teaching you how and why it works the way it does.
Of course, I also spend several hours teaching
the exact, specific, step-by-step techniques that
I personally use to be more successful with women
and dating... and I also interview several of my
friends live and extract their secrets as well.
Go check it out. It's all here:
There's another program that I'd like to
recommend here as well to help cure your bad case
That's my Deep Inner Game program.
When you've worked out your "inner issues" and
you're not looking to other people for approval...
and when you have a clear sense of who you are as
a person... then you stop screwing up situations
as often... and you start doing the right thing
Women can tell when they're dealing with a man
who doesn't have his "inner stuff together", and
they respond by FLAKING, CHALLENGING, etc.
To make a long story short, get my Deep Inner
Game program. It will give you the specific, step-
by-step tools you need to fix your "inner game
The details are here:
And if you haven't read my eBook "Double Your
Dating", then you need to do that NOW. It's my
original manual for success with women and dating,
and it's the place to get started if you want to
take your success with women to the next level.
You can download it at:
I'll talk to you again soon!
David D. Dynimitehttp://firstname.lastname@example.org:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-5038.7353752008-03-14T17:14:57-07:002008-03-14T17:14:57-07:005 ways To Trigger "Sexual Tension" With Women5 Ways To Trigger "Sexual Tension" With Women
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SEXUAL TENSION... AND HOW TO CREATE IT...
Let me ask you a quick question.
It's a question that MOST men do NOT know the
It's also a question that most women DO know
the answer to...
The question: "What is SEXUAL TENSION?"
Take a minute and "mentally answer" that
question. Think it over if you have to.
I'm not kidding. Think about it.
What did you come up with?
To most men, the words "Sexual Tension" are a
They just don't make sense.
Or if they DO make sense, they make sense in a
way that DOESN'T make sense. Make sense?
In other words, some guys think that the words
Sexual Tension mean "negative anxiety about sex"
or something equally unhelpful.
But, if you go ask a group of WOMEN what the
words mean, you'll get a MUCH different answer.
Women know what Sexual Tension is.
To a woman, Sexual Tension is the feeling that
she feels during those times when she is
interacting with a man that she feels ATTRACTION
for... but she doesn't know exactly what's going
Maybe she can't tell if he's into her, but the
conversation is so good that something MUST be
Maybe he's making her laugh a little bit "too
much", and she's unable to control her feelings
Or maybe it's obvious that he's interested, but
he's so in control of himself and the situation
that he's not blatantly "making a move"... and
she's on the edge of her seat waiting to know
what's going to happen.
These are all possible examples of Sexual
Now, just because one of these situations is
happening doesn't mean that Sexual Tension is
But these are the types of situations where it
is MOST LIKELY to be present.
With that, let me see if I can take you behind
the scenes and give you a different perspective.
Men and women have some BIG differences when it
comes to ATTRACTION.
Men have their "attraction mechanisms"
"triggered" by much different things than women.
For women, things usually begin with a small
Eye contact for a little too long.
A Cocky & Funny comment.
A teasing remark.
It can be anything.
The point is that SOMETHING SPARKS the
Then it GROWS over time.
It doesn't have to be a lot of time, but it
does usually require time.
It might take an evening, or it might take a
date or two... but if a man does all the right
things he can AMPLIFY one these little sparks of
attraction into a powerful emotional feeling for a
woman... that is too much for her to resist.
Of course, as we both know, a man can usually
feel a sexual attraction to a woman INSTANTLY.
I'm sure you've had a woman smile at you and
What's worse, we totally don't get how things
work for women.
So we tend to do all the WRONG things.
And when we do all the WRONG things, women
don't even get the little sparks that can grow
into full-blown ATTRACTION.
So let's talk about Sexual Tension...
Most people don't like the idea of "tension".
It usually means confrontation or dealing with
someone who's mad at you or who doesn't like you.
Tension is seen as a NEGATIVE by most people.
And when most men feel ANY type of tension
around a woman, they make a HUGE mistake...
THEY RELEASE THE TENSION.
Because most guys are so caught up in the
"tension is bad" way of thinking, they DESTROY all
of the great Sexual Tension that arises in the
situations they find themselves in with women.
It's a total bummer.
So, the first thing I'm going to ask you to do,
for the purposes of understanding this concept, is
to put your ideas of what tension is and how it
works behind you.
Open your mind to a new way of thinking.
Become "OK" with the idea of CREATING TENSION
when you're around women that you feel an
attraction for... and even AMPLIFYING that
And realize that if you can do this, women will
LOVE you for it.
Women, and especially ATTRACTIVE women who are
approached all the time by loser guys, don't enjoy
dating guys who are boring, predictable, and lame.
They love guys who are unpredictable,
mysterious, and CHALLENGING.
They love guys who keep them guessing what's
going to happen next.
And they love guys who can keep the TENSION
BUILDING, and NOT LET UP.
If what I'm saying is starting to make sense,
but you'd like to get a more in-depth understanding
of Sexual Tension and Chemistry, then read THIS
before you read the rest of this newsletter:
Here are a few ideas for "sparking" that
initial tension that I'm talking about...
If you want to INSTANTLY change the way a hot,
stuck-up woman is behaving, TEASE HER about
Now, not all beautiful women are stuck up.
But, teasing works PARTICULARLY well when a
woman IS stuck up... lol.
Maybe it's her big purse.
Or her tall shoes.
Or her "runway model" walk.
Just tease her.
Say, "Hey, what's with the big purse? You're
not one of those women with a live dog named
"Precious" in there, along with organic vegan
high-protein treats for when she's in the mood to
be pampered, are you?"
It doesn't matter.
Just say something to tease her.
Oh, and it's usually better if you can do this
with a STRAIGHT FACE. This creates even MORE
If you MUST smile, make sure it's the "I'm only
smiling because I know that you can't believe how
confident I am that you love me" kind of smile.
2) EYE CONTACT
When a man and a woman make eye contact for the
FIRST TIME, it's USUALLY the man who looks away
Men are WUSSIES when it comes to doing things
that say "I'm a strong, confident person".
Looking away when you make eye contact with a
woman is one of those things. BIG TIME.
Instead, if you HOLD the eye contact until SHE
looks away (and you don't fidget or twitch like
you've got some strange bug crawling up your
shirt), it will send a strong signal.
Oh, and it has a good chance of "sparking" this
attraction that we're talking about.
3) ROLE PLAY
Often an opportunity will come up when you're
meeting a woman where you'll want to instantly
shift into a "roll play".
Maybe she mentions that she's getting a new
job. Tell her that you sure hope it pays well,
because she's going to have to support both of
And then tell her that you hope she has enough
energy to cook at night after work, because you
need a wife who can bring home the bacon, AND fry
it up in a pan...
Then tell her that something she just said
screwed it all up for you, and that you're
probably going to wind up divorcing her a week
after you get married... and taking half of HER
Roll playing is fun, and if it's done right it
can REALLY spark this tension that we're talking
The point is that you have to SPARK it.
YOU must lead the way, and YOU must do
something to create that little moment where
things transition into "we're playing like
adults". Women feel this, and respond to it
- TURNING UP THE TENSION
Now, once you've sparked this tension and
engaged her into an interesting banter, it's time
to DIAL UP THE TENSION.
That's right, I said, CREATE MORE TENSION.
Let's say that you were talking to her about
making a lot of money so she can support you, and
she answered with, "Well, I can support you, but
you're going to have to do all the housework,
dishes, and take care of the kids".
Most guys would be thinking to themselves
"Cool, she's having fun with me, I'll say
something to make her like me now".
So they'd say, "OK, I can do that" or something
This is the place to TURN IT UP.
Say, "Oh no you don't. I'm the man here. I get
to lie around all day watching TV.., then go out
with my friends when you get home".
Reversing gender stereotypes like this, and
teasing is all kinds of fun.
At this point the woman might open her mouth
with the "Oh no you didn't just say that" look.
Of course, you should look back at her, raise
your eyebrows, and slowly nod your head, as if to
imply "Oh yes, you're going to support me".
This is just one example.
Here are a few more, just so you really "get"
what it is that I'm saying.
1) DON'T take advantage of something.
Let's say that the woman you're talking to is
wearing a sexy outfit. She gets up and walks
across the room to get something. She KNOWS that
you're going to be looking at her.
BUT YOU DON'T.
When she turns around to come back, you're
looking down at your shoes, and commenting about
what great taste you have.
THIS IS SUBTLE, BUT POWERFUL.
Not taking advantage of a look, a touch, a
kiss, etc. when it's available DIALS UP the Sexual
2) Push her away.
Let's say that you have your first kiss.
PUSH HER AWAY gently just before the kiss
"should" be finished.
Shake your head.
Say, "you're trouble".
3) End interactions first.
If you're talking to her on the phone, and
you're both enjoying the conversation, say, "OK,
I've got things to do. See ya."
This is MAGIC.
Not only are you ending a great conversation
when it was on an UP note, but you're also not
trying to get anything from her.
Most guys cling and stay on the phone forever,
then ask for a date or if they can call later.
DON'T DO IT.
Just get off the phone.
If it's the end of the date, leave just a
little bit too soon.
The point is to create TENSION in the moment.
- EVERYDAY SITUATIONS
In just about every situation there is an
opportunity to TURN UP THE TENSION.
When you do this, you create a very special
emotion for women.
It's that combination of her laughing, her not
knowing what's going to come next, and you not
acting like a WUSSY...
It's that special curiosity that is aroused
inside of a woman when she doesn't know what's
going to happen... but she WANTS to know...
It's that magical moment when it's obvious that
most guys would start acting like CLINGY WUSSBAGS,
and you're just leaning back as if you've got all
the time in the world... and you need nothing.
These things spark and amplify Sexual Tension.
And they INSTANTLY communicate to women that
you understand something that most men DON'T.
Now, of course this isn't a simple topic.
There's a lot more to it.
In fact, one of the most important factors in
creating sexual tension is your ability to not act
needy... which has more to do with your self image
and overcoming your insecurities than it does with
your "behaviors" alone.
As you probably know, I believe that it's as
important to work on your "Inner Game" as it is to
work on our "Outer Game".
It's as important to learn how to change how
you think and feel as it is to learn the words and
You must start on the INSIDE, and work your way
You can have the 100 best pick up lines ever
created memorized word-for-word, but if you care
too much what women think of you, then THEY WON'T
WORK WORTH A DAMN.
In fact, almost NOTHING WILL WORK if you don't
have your Inner Game together.
One of the things that really separates my more
advanced training materials from others is that I
spend a LOT of time teaching you how to overcome
your insecurities, improve your self image, see
things from a better angle, and really work
through those "inner" things that are holding you
In my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
program, I spend several HOURS on "The Inner Game"
before I ever share techniques for meeting women.
It's THAT IMPORTANT.
Of course, after I spend four or five hours
tweaking up your thinking and your emotional
issues, I also share HUNDREDS of killer ideas for
approaching, meeting, dating, and "getting
physical" with women in ways that AVOID REJECTION
and amplify success.
The best part? I guarantee results.
All you have to do is go through this program
one time, and you'll see results.
I mean, you'll probably go through the whole
thing MANY times, and you'll hear a TON of new
things each time... but the very first time will
change you for good.
EVEN BETTER: I'll send this program to you to
TRY before you pay one single dime... I'm THAT
SURE it's going to get you results with women.
All the details are here:
Have you read my original online eBook "Double
Your Dating"? It's literally jam packed with great
techniques for meeting women... and you can go
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I'll talk to you again soon.
Dynimitehttp://email@example.com:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-5038.7353732008-03-14T17:13:49-07:002008-03-14T17:13:49-07:00Keeping A Beautiful Woman AttractedKeeping A Beautiful Woman Attracted
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***DATING QUESTION FROM READER***
I want to start by thanking you for your work.
Once in a great while, someone comes along that
truly wants to help others succeed, and puts in
the effort to the research and testing, and makes
something great for others. You are one of those
people, and I'm glad to see you succeed by helping
so many others do the same.
I was reaching to find answers, like a lot of us
were, and found your material. It has been
awesome. In the last week, I saw the most
attractive woman I perhaps ever have. She was a
9.5 on my scale, which is truly rare to find for
me. Not just in looks, but a great personality.
Instead of giving in to my normal habits, I
applied the methods you taught. We went out to a
club, and had a great time. I had another friend
of mine there, and I used him as a means to
partially ignore her at times, constantly making
jokes that were just too quiet for her to hear,
and looking at her and smiling when doing it. She
constantly wanted to know what was funny, yet she
wasn't mad, just shyly curious. I was aloof, yet
not terribly too distant from her. I would wander
off by myself, knowing she was with my friend, and
leave them hanging alone for a little while now
and then. (I knew my friend wasn't going to hit on
her). I would go up to other girls and whisper
something in their ear right in front of her, to
give her the idea that I was completely
comfortable in my own skin with women. Once, on my
way back from the dance floor, I found her with
some other guy. I flashed a sly little smile, but
kept on walking right by, as if to imply "You have
a good time there. I could care less. As a matter
of fact, you look a tad pathetic coming on to
him." She soon returned and said that I had been
gone too long, and some guy had "dragged her away
from me". That night, I had resisted the urge to
act like anything but the kind of man you would
teach someone to be. All urges at wussness were
disregarded, and I played the part to a tee. Even
though it didn't entirely feel normal or
comfortable at first, I could see that it was
definitely working, so I kept it up. I would
occasionally catch her staring at me from the
corner of my eye, sometimes for 2 or 3 seconds. I
didn't react, but just kept saying to myself
"Damn. David has been right the whole time".
I woke up the next morning with a weird feeling...
this was something I had never achieved before. I
don't mean sex with a woman soon after I met her,
but the fact that she was so damn gorgeous. At
the risk of sounding a little chauvinistic, she
was the best girl I have ever had. Well, over the
next two weeks or so, I kept coming over and doing
things during the days with her and staying at
night. This is when things began to change.
You had a timeless question from a guy once who
said something like "After I sleep with a woman
why do I feel like hating her?" Well, I normally
feel the same. But with this girl, it was
different. I wanted to keep her. But, the more
time we spent together, the more we started to
both feel like whatever I sparked was fading
quick. I could see the thrill of our initial
meeting was dying, and I wanted to add to my image
in her mind the idea that I could be a part of her
daily life too, not just the nighttime party one.
I felt like I had to show her something that
proved I didn't just want her for sex. I knew I
couldn't let her interpret it as me buying her
attention or body, although I'm afraid that may
have been exactly what I did. I ended up
purchasing her and her roommate a full stock of
groceries, which they definitely needed. It gave
me some kind of a sense that I had shown that I
was more than just a sex buddy, which really felt
good to me. However, lately she has pulled away.
We will still go out and have a good time, but
more like friends, with only a little flirting.
She now refuses sex, saying "it would complicate
things." By the way, although she has been in
long-term relationships since she was 16, she
currently isn't, and seems to be enjoying the
party life a lot. She is 22 now. I know you said
in your audio series that it is a mistake to try
to tie down a party girl, but she told me of her
long-term history with guys, and that's why I
tried. Did I screw up by getting too close too
fast? Was it unrealistic for me to show that kind
of attention to her needs that quick or at all?
How many times should a guy see a girl each week
if he wants to keep up the attraction and have a
great time, but not become too familiar to her?
Oh, I feel your pain.
I'm sure that just about every man alive can
identify with this story in one way or another...
even if it doesn't involve a woman that you'd
describe as a "9.5".
So, let's talk about the situation you're in,
what happened at first, and what to do now...
First of all, congratulations on the fact that
you were able to make this kind of success happen
in the first place!
You're doing great, and I know how good it
feels to have this kind of success with a really
It sounds like you're really starting to "get
it" at a deep level. The more you continue to
study the materials you have (especially the CD
Series) the more you'll understand how to attract
these UNUSUALLY attractive women... and more
importantly, KEEP THEM ATTRACTED.
Let's review a few of my main concepts, and how
they apply to this situation...
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE
Explained differently, a woman doesn't
CONSCIOUSLY CHOOSE to feel attracted to a man.
A woman also doesn't consciously choose to STOP
her attraction for a man.
It happens for reasons that seem very illogical
to most men.
The things you were doing when you first met
this girl were EXACTLY the right things for
creating this wonderful feeling of ATTRACTION
inside of her.
And she obviously enjoyed it tremendously.
You mentioned that you didn't feel totally
comfortable at first, but since it was obvious
that she was becoming more and more interested in
you, you kept going... which led to you getting
together with her.
But, remember the flip side: If you start doing
the WRONG things, the woman will LOSE her
ATTRACTION for you as well. And it will happen ALL
BY ITSELF. The worst part is that you can't
logically convince her to keep feeling attracted
to you. If you screw it up, you're probably going
to screw it up to a point that is almost
impossible to fix.
More of the "psychology" of creating and
amplifying attraction is here:
GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU
What do most guys do as soon as they meet a
REALLY HOT, ultra-attractive woman?
Of course! They call three times a day, and
want to see her all the time.
Attractive women know better than to do this.
When an attractive woman meets a man she likes,
she usually PLAYS HARD TO GET. Instead of calling,
she acts like she's BUSY.
This makes the man try even harder, and pursue
her even more...
It sounds like you did exactly the opposite.
In your email here you say:
"Well, over the next two weeks or so, I kept
coming over and doing things during the days with
her and staying at night. This is when things
began to change..."
No no no!
Over the next two weeks you should have called
her every few days, and seen her maybe three times
for a few hours each.
No "doing things during the days with her and
staying at night"!
You really need to remember to GIVE HER THE
GIFT OF MISSING YOU!
If you're around all the time, you become
predictable, expected, and uninteresting.
On the other hand, if you're mysterious,
challenging, and hard to pin down, she will think
about you and miss the times she's had with you.
DON'T TURN INTO A WUSS
This is one of the biggest mistakes that men
make when they meet a woman that they REALLY like.
I get a lot of emails from guys saying "I met
this girl, and I used everything I've learned from
Double Your Dating to get her... but now that
we've been seeing each other for awhile things are
changing, and I'm starting to lose control of how
I act... and I'm turning into my old Wussy
As I'm sure you can guess, this is bad bad bad
When you start out by doing things that are
attractive to her, then gradually turn into a WUSS
BAG, you go from her wildest dream to her worst
nightmare right in front of her eyes.
If you figure out how to make a woman feel
ATTRACTION for you, then KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE
Don't start being a clingy Wuss. Translation:
Don't spend every day and night with her, don't
buy her groceries, and don't try to get her into a
relationship fifteen minutes after you meet her.
You also mentioned a few little words that
stood out for me: "I kept coming over...".
YOU kept coming over. When you're the one
coming to her, then she's the one in control.
Think about it. This is a small point, and it
isn't always the case, but in this situation it
makes a difference.
So, what should you do now?
You should give her some space. Don't call her
more than once or twice a week, and don't see her
more than once or twice a week for awhile. Don't
pressure her physically, and don't try to push for
DATE OTHER WOMEN! Get out there and go out with
some other women... and when you talk to her don't
hide the fact that you're doing it. Be casual
about it, but feel free to mention it in
conversation once or twice.
GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE
Don't get hung up, don't obsess about her, and
don't make it important to "win her back". Just
This combination will give you the greatest
chance of winning her back...
And the next time you meet a beautiful woman
that has an interesting personality, DON'T TURN
INTO A PREDICTABLE, BORING, CLINGY, WUSSY!
You've done a great job getting this far. Now
get back in there and take this to the next level!
And if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself "I need to learn this stuff
so I can meet beautiful women like this guy...",
then we have to talk.
One of the most important insights I've gotten
from learning the secrets of how to attract women
is very interesting...
I've realized that if a man doesn't know how to
attract women, it spills over into all other areas
of his life. It's a very special kind of
insecurity that causes a lot of problems in other
areas as well.
Let's face it.
Just about everything that men do to achieve
material success in life is somehow connected to
But guess what?
Material success won't make the INSECURITY and
the FEAR go away!
The only thing that WILL make it go away is
actually LEARNING how to attract women.
I know, because I've been there. I can CLEARLY
remember how different I felt inside when I had no
idea how to meet women... and I know how different
it feels now that I do.
My relationships work better, because I'm not
acting AFRAID... afraid that she's going to leave,
afraid I won't be able to find someone else...
And when I'm single, I'm happy. I don't
constantly worry anymore, not knowing if I'll ever
meet another woman.
I personally think that taking the time to
learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION is one of
the best investments you will ever make in
yourself and your life, period.
It might be THE best investment.
If you'd like to get the best training
available in the WORLD, then you need to get
yourself a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques
It's a complete education, from the psychology
of how to overcome fear and improve your self
image, all the way to specific techniques for
approaching, meeting, and dating women... and even
how to take things to a "physical level" without
I absolutely guarantee that this program will
change your success with women.
All the details, plus some great free audio and
video samples are here:
If you've gone through my Advanced Dating
Techniques program, and you enjoyed the INNER GAME
aspects of attracting women... and you've realized
that REALLY attractive women are more attracted to
INNER qualities than "techniques"... AND you want
to learn how to become the kind of man that women
are NATURALLY attracted to... and that they STAY
...then you REALLY need to check out my
program: "On Being A Man... Who Naturally Attracts
Inside this program you'll learn how to develop
the QUALITIES inside YOURSELF that women are
"naturally" attracted to.
This program will teach you how to leave your
"Inner Wuss" behind, and how to cultivate a
natural masculine power that women find literally
All the details are here:
And if you haven't taken the time to download
my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you
need to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download
it right now and be reading it within a few
minutes. Go and get it here:
I'll talk to you again soon.
David D. Dynimitehttp://firstname.lastname@example.org:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-5038.7353702008-03-14T17:11:56-07:002008-03-14T17:11:56-07:00The Quickest Way To The Bedroom With HerThe Quickest Way To The Bedroom With Her
>If you'd like to hear the story of how I went
from not even being able to start a conversation
with women... to the point where I can meet any
woman in any situation... then take a minute and
check this out:
***DATING QUESTION FROM READER***
WOW!!!! Thats all I can say. I've been getting
your emails for several months and have since
downloaded your book. I've committed myself to
improving my "skills" with women and the results
have been amazing. The "Crash and Burn" that most
guys are sooo fearful of NEVER happens and very
rarely does a girl give you anything but a smile
even if she isn't interested. My latest success
was so easy it was almost scary. I met a woman
(an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and used the c/f
to get her number and set up a date. Went out on
the date and it was almost like it was scripted.
Pushed the c/f to the extreme all night, teased
her, drove her completely crazy and left her house
at 5:00 am the next morning. Here's the thing,
using this material you will very often hear,
"Oh... I can't believe I'm doing this..I never do
this kind of thing." Usually I laugh hysterically
inside, and respond with the heart felt, "Oh I
know, don't worry about it." The problem is with
this girl it was different. First, even using
your vast knowledge, I didn't expect to be able to
get this far with this girl on the first date. She
had that intangible "it" that really attracted me
to her and I actually don't think that under
normal circumstances she would have taken a guy
home but.... most guys don't have the benefit of
the "David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks" either
(lol). Anyway this was Saturday and I called her
Monday just to say hi. She was soooo nervous and
uncomfortable she could barely complete a
sentence. Obviously with everything that happened
I think she was a bit embarrassed and, that's to
be expected, but now I'm not sure how to handle
this situation. I'm afraid now that if I'm not
REALLY careful that I'll screw up a chance with a
great woman. I get the feeling that she needs a
little reassurance that this wasn't just a one
night stand, but I'm not sure if that's the right
thing to do or if it is, how to do it without
coming off like a WUSS BAG! I think this girl
could be worth some effort.........PLEASE HELP!!!
Thanks for everything, JH Monroe LA
This is a great story, and your story
illustrates all kinds of interesting things. I'd like to
comment on a few of them before I actually answer
The first thing I'd like to comment on is this
illogical progression of how you went from meeting
this girl to being intimate so fast.
To begin with, you acted Cocky & Funny, and
teased her... "to the extreme", which somehow resulted in
her spending the night with you.
Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no
sense at all... I mean, why would a woman who is
obviously very attractive and "in demand" want to
get physical with a guy that isn't buying her
things, giving her compliments, and generally
kissing her ass all night long?
The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
DON'T ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS
IN THE FIRST PLACE!
Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures,
religions, and mothers have programmed us to be
"nice guys" when we're around women we feel
This does two things:
1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.
2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.
Again, I know it's illogical, but attractive
women have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION
responses to men who CHALLENGE them and who act
UNPREDICTABLE in a particular way.
Part of creating this illogical and desirable
response is knowing how to use arrogance and humor
together in a formula I call "Cocky & Funny"
(which you obviously get).
Of course, there's a lot more to it, but the
key is that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T
WORKING... namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.
If you're reading this right now, and you're
of those guys who thinks that women are attracted
to "nice guys", then think again, and read THIS:
The second thing I'd like to comment on is when
"Oh...I can't believe I'm doing this...I never
do this kind of thing."
I've talked to a lot of guys who are VERY
successful with women about this particular
phenomenon, and they all say similar things.
It seems that whenever a woman is going to get
"physical" quickly, they have to rationalize it
"out loud" first.
Sometimes a woman will say "I'm not like this"
or something similar to slow things down and try
to explain away what's happening.
Don't let it bother you.
Of course, if a woman says, "stop" or she
actually tries to stop you from kissing her (or
anything else), then you need to STOP immediately.
I'm not suggesting at all that you don't respect a
But, you also need to understand that just
because a woman is SAYING that "she doesn't
usually do things like this", that it doesn't mean
she doesn't WANT to.
The final point I'd like to comment on before
answering your question, is this response that she
had when you called her back. You mentioned that
she was so nervous and uncomfortable that she
couldn't complete a sentence.
I have seen this exact same thing, and I have
several friends who have told me stories just like
It seems to me that when an attractive woman
who is used to being the one in control meets a
guy who is super confident, Cocky & Funny,
unpredictable, and NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it
freaks her out.
Sometimes she literally doesn't know what to
do, and she doesn't know how to act. Often, she
will be self-conscious about the fact that she
"got physical" so soon, or about some other
thing... but it really comes down to the fact that
she just doesn't know how to deal with you.
This is a great place to be, and don't let it
bother you when it happens.
And now, to answer your question... of how to
handle this situation.
First of all, don't start acting TOO
If you start acting all nice and lovey, you'll
come across in a way that will be confusing... and
it will probably make her run.
If you want this to turn into something more,
then you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING
If she seems nervous, just relax and make a
joke about it.
With attractive women, it's always a good idea
to "lean back" and give her space.
As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as
you would normally call a woman, and see her half
as much... at least for the first few weeks.
GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.
And if you're going to be "nice", then BE VERY
CAREFUL AND DON'T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!
When the average guy meets a really attractive
woman that is "different" from the others... one
that he wants to have a relationship with... he
usually starts doing too much. He buys gifts,
calls all the time, and gives lots of compliments.
As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY
behavior, and it usually results in the woman
In other words, you must not let her nervous
state affect YOUR state or YOUR behavior.
KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.
...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women...
and how to take things to a physical level fast",
then YOU'RE RIGHT!
I think that every man should invest in
himself, and learn this skill.
Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.
Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.
What's the difference?
I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.
And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend
you learn the things that I learned FIRST.
It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out, and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort, and energy on my part to put it all down
on paper and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out
my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn
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David D. Dynimitehttp://email@example.com:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-5038.7353692008-03-14T17:10:50-07:002008-03-14T17:10:50-07:00Women Share Tips On DatingWomen Share Tips On Dating
>NOTE: If you'd like to learn the easiest,
fastest, lowest-rejection way to meet women,
then read this:
Great news. I tried C + F with a girl I've known
for over a year as a friend but would never dream
I asked her advice about fashion and took her
shopping with me for clothes. I busted on her the
whole time about looking at my ass, etc. So a few
days later I get a call. "What do you like to
drink? How 'bout I stop by with some beers and
Between our second and third lovemaking sessions
she apologizes for taking up my time, and
confesses that she's not really looking for a
relationship right now. Hopes I'm not mad. Pure
gold, man. This woman is ten years younger and the
highest paid stripper at a local bar. I'm broke,
short, bald, cocky, and funny. Go figure. Thanks a
million. Don't print my name, but DO send me your
advanced class ASAP!
Yeah, bummer... isn't it?
While you might not have found the ultimate
"wife" material, it doesn't sound to me like you
mind the free fashion advice (oh, and free BEER).
Why is it that the highest paid dancer at a
local bar... one who has literally hundreds and
hundreds of men around her that would pay her, buy
her anything, and worship her like a queen...
would rather buy beer and bring it to an older,
short, bald, cocky, funny guy and then say "I'm
sorry if I'm wasting your time... I'm not looking
for a relationship"?
Because she doesn't need a clingy, loser,
psycho, WUSSY, sketchy jackass who calls her 47
times a day to ask her what she's doing and say "I
miss you, when can I see you again".
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
I would be most grateful for some help/advice if
you could assist. = I am bi sexual fem women,
and have recently met a beautiful women, my type
very fem, and I really like this women. She has
been hurt by men in the past, and is just going
through a phase in her life at the moment where
she needs to be with women. She has been with 2
other women including me before.
To cut a long story short, I dont know how to
charm her, make her like me more and become a
magnet towards her?. I'm not chasing after her
because i suspect that most men have done this
before, and because I am a women i want to play it
cool. She has already indicated that she wants
fun then see what happens, but I understand that
nothing could ever come of it because her family
and friends dont know she is bi, and she comes
from a relatively posh family.
Have you got any suggestions you could give me
Thank you for spending time in reading the
above, and I await to hear from you in great
You know, why is it that when you finally get
an email you WISH was longer, it says "To cut a
long story short"?
OK, I'm closing my eyes right now... and making
an image in my mind of you and your new-found babe
in a room together...
You're wondering how to make her feel A STRONG
ATTRACTION to you... but you just can't figure it
All of a sudden, the door opens up, and I come
walking in to the rescue...
I sit down between you and your girlfriend, and
I give you that knowing look...
You instantly understand that I'm going to help
you get what you want... and you feel a deep and
profound appreciation for me...
You know, this imaginary thing never was very
good for me.
OK, back to reality...
Look, you're asking a question just like a
Wussy guy would ask.
You're in a TEXTBOOK situation...
And if you don't get control of yourself and
your emotions, you're going to screw this up real
Pause. Deep breaths. Sit in the lotus position
Here's the formula for making this girl want to
be with you:
Great Experiences + Missing You
When you're with her, make it ENJOYABLE.
Don't put any kind of weird emotional pressure
Don't ask "Do you think you could be with
someone like me in a long-term relationship?".
Don't call her all the time.
When you do spend time with her, make sure you
and she are having a GREAT TIME.
And then end every interaction with her while
it's on an UP note... and just a little bit too
Like a great movie, end it at a "climax".
"Huh... Huh... He thaid "climaxth". Yeah Yeah!"
And as you've heard me say before, give her the
GIFT of MISSING YOU.
You're on the right track by "playing it cool".
Now add fun, excitement, and MYSTERY to the
Give her experiences she can't forget, and then
give her room to think about you, wonder where you
are, and chase you until she's caught.
Just what kind of conversations are you having
with these lil girls? Don't you find it better to
have someone that can stimulate your mind as well
as your member? I must say that my personal
opinion is that you have low self-esteem and base
your self worth on the trophy you carry by your
side...Grow up ya mental midget.......
I've included this to make an example... this
is the type of person to watch out for while
you're learning how to be successful with women
and dating... they have nothing useful to offer,
This is someone who doesn't get it, doesn't get
ANY, and isn't going to help you.
This person would be glad to sit all night and
tell you why it's a bad idea for you to have fun
dating all the fun women you're dating because
none of them are "marriage material".
But while you're FINDING that rare and
fantastic woman who can stimulate your mind, body,
emotions, and "member", you might as well enjoy
And to answer the question:
The kind of conversations I'm having with these
"lil girls" is the kind that challenges them,
makes them feel ATTRACTION, and makes them realize
how BORING negative people like you are.
Where do I even begin to tell you about the
changes that have taken place in my life since I
read your e-book?
I used to be the classic wussy. While reading
your book, and reading about the things that you
said were exactly what NOT to do, it was painful
for me. But a wake-up call at the same time! It
allowed me to pinpoint what went wrong in every
failed relationship or unsuccessful interaction
with females I've ever had.
I've always been naturally cocky and funny, but
I never figured it would be a successful method to
use around women as I was too focused on coming
across as, "A nice guy she could take home to
dad." I used to ALWAYS become a submissive wuss in
frilly pink panties everytime I was around
attractive girls. Maaannn, was I ever wrong, and
thank you for showing me the light!
I'm currently in sales, and a few months ago had
found myself falling for a customer service rep
for one of the companies whos products I sell. She
has every quality a man could want. She's 23, (I
just turned 20) gorgeous, confident, intelligent,
and she has a cheeky little attitude that is
sooooo easy for the cocky and funny man to have
fun with! From the start, I just continued to bust
her balls non-stop and I LOVE teasing her for her
minor insecurities (she is short, claustrophobic
and has a bit of a bratty attitude, among many
others). I call her a bratty little child, laugh
at her and call her "cute" in a sarcastic tone
when she tries to act cocky. I told her I was
going to show her the city and she could buy me
dinner for my effort! lol. It worked like a
Shes definitely a keeper, and its time to take
things to the next level! I don't expect I will
have ANY problems maintaining this one thanks to
the gold that IS your e-book!
Not to mention, my newly improved attitude and
high level of inner confidence have ran-off into
all aspects of my life. I've never felt better!
$19.97 changed my life!
B in BC
And the reality is that YOU changed your
life... and I'm glad I could help.
Make sure you don't forget what you're learning
and turn into a girly-man in about 6 months like
most guys do.
Keep up the good work, and keep the girl.
Like everyone else I have to say your book did
wonders for me. I wouldn't dream of asking a girl
for her# after just meeting her (classic wussy
rejection fear). Now, what do I care if she gives
it to me or not there's another looker 10 feet
One thing I would like to add to the table,
maybe i missed it the first time i read the book,
what do you do if C&F doesn't have enough F and
you jut offended her?
My personal situation that happens often because
I like to see live bands, is that I'll be talking
to a girl and (long story short) say "Man, this
band really sucks" to which she makes a comment
walks away. I have since learned to apologize...I
don't feel it's wussy if it works. Now the
"This band really Sucks. 'Hey, I like this band.'
"Oh Im sorry....Not for saying that, but that you
like this band."
Every time I pull out that comment the girls
turn around and continue conversation.
So thanks dave for turning my social life around.
I still have a lot to learn though, so men of the
world dont just send in your success stories send
in the tip that you had to figure out on your own.
PT Superior, WI
I like the direction you're going...
But, I think you need to tweak it just a
Saying "This band sucks" to a total stranger
just isn't funny.
If you say, "Hey, do you LIKE this band?" and
she says, "Yeah" and you say, "Doesn't surprise
me, what - are you the guitar players sister?"...
That's a little more where you want to go.
It's funny, but it's also kind of unclear. It
involves the woman you're talking to without her
really being able to catch on to what you mean.
You answered your own question: ADD MORE FUNNY.
Cocky guys attract women... that's reality.
But, guys who are ONLY cocky also upset and
offend a lot of women... but they don't care,
because they only care about themselves.
Add more funny... it's much better for her, and
I try to read all your newsletters -- I'm
married for 12 years and trying to figure out how
to de-wussify my self. It's not easy, and you
don't help even a little because you don't give
"relationship advice." But I try to find ways to
be unpredictable and cocky + funny with my wife...
And any other woman I meet. I'm a religious
professional, so I've got some real limitations to
work within, but I'm pretty sure teasing women
isn't a sin, and it lights me up.
I went through a phase where I figured you wrote
the letters. But having read them for a while now,
I'm convinced you're not that kind of genius.
"Pick the one with more money." -- I was worried
someone at my office was going to ask me why I was
laughing so loud. "You suck and all men wish they
were you." Well, as a religious professional, I
have to say you suck double.
Here's one example of what I did right. (I think.)
She was in the shower, so I walked in too. Her:
"You came into my shower." Me: "Wouldn't you if
you were me and there was a beautiful, steamy,
sexy naked woman in here?" Her: "I suppose so."
Me: "But you'll have to do." Her: (Total shift in
attitude.) "Hey, mister, you're loosing
opportunities that way." Me: "I've got
opportunities coming out of my ears."
(I'm not sure she believed that, but I couldn't
think what else to say.)
She didn't make any moves that day, but the next
day she was happily receptive.
Still if you have any advice on how to stimulate
attraction in a woman who's seen you at your
wussiest I'd love to hear it. I'm not walking out
of the relationship or going to introducing
"distance" that would be unfitting for a couple
married for a long while, so don't go there. But
I'd love to get some more ideas of how to push her
I don't know, there's just something about a
guy who tells me "You suck double" that I just
can't resist... OK, so you tugged at my heart-
strings a little with the "I'm a religious
professional who's been married 12 years and I
want to make my wife dig me more" bit.
You're doing pretty well.
I like the whole shower routine... right up
until the very last part.
When she shifted tone and said, "Hey, mister,
you're losing opportunities that way" and you
answered, "I've got opportunities coming out of my
ears", you went off course.
Instead, when she says, "You're losing
opportunities that way", say, "I'm the opportunity
here, and you might want to take advantage of it
while it's available"... then splash some water on
her, shower her, wink at her, and GET OUT.
Have you ever played with a dog?
How do you make a dog LOVE you?
You chase it, then run away.
What does the dog do?
Of course, it chases YOU.
Then it might get tired... so you chase it a
little again... and then run away.
You've been acting like a Wuss for 12 years.
Keep evicting the inner Wuss more and more over
time, and who knows? You might actually become
interesting to your wife again...
You know, you might also want to read THIS:
You have no idea how much I appreciate what you
are doing for me and so many other guys out there.
It's truly amazing stuff. The details about me are
unimportant, but I read your book thought to
myself wow that's awesome and then continued to
think "oh but I"ll never change I like who I am
even if I'm incredibly unsuccessful with women."
But I had a crush on a girl I worked with and
tried your cocky comedy technique anyway in spite
of myself. I only let myself appeared moderately
interested if at all and eventually asked her if
she wanted to take a ride on my bike. (one of the
main things we had talked about before was about
me buying a motorcycle, she had already asked me
to take her for a ride.) That was the best date of
my life and she's all I hoped for I made a list of
all the other books you recommended in your ebook
and have gone out and read them too becasue I
really like the way i feel when i'm in control of
the relationship. Best part is dave she's three
years older than I am and I still have her wrapped
around my finger.
To get to my question though dave it's coming up
her birthday and because I really do love her I
need to make sure i don't screw up when it comes
time to give gifts and really make her feel
special. I know you don't like relationships as
much as single dating but could you offer
whateveradvice you might have. Thanks a lot Dave,
you're definitely a wealth of all things dating.
M, Chicago area
Yeah, OK... I know I'm breaking my rule of not
giving relationship advice AGAIN, but this answer
will be useful to all guys...
And by the way, it's not that I "don't like
relationships as much as single dating" at all.
In fact, I believe that MOST guys would really
like to find a great woman to have a fantastic
long-term relationship with...
I just FOCUS on the "meeting and dating" part.
So, here's the problem:
If you meet a girl that you really like, at
some point early-on in the relationship, some type
of holiday or occasion is going to turn up...
Valentine's Day, New Year's Eve, her
And you don't want to look like a TOTAL jackass
by doing nothing... I get it.
Here's just a little bit of advice:
You can make the occasion FANTASTIC without
being a WUSSY.
You can do something that will blow her mind
without coming across as a needy, clingy, girly-
man who is trying to impress a woman because he
doesn't feel worthy.
An example of what most guys do:
Call her up, tell her that you really like her,
ask her where her favorite restaurant is because
you want to take her there for her birthday, ask
her what else she's like to do, and then keep
asking after she says "I don't care what we do, I
just want to have fun" a hundred more times.
An example of what to do instead:
Call her and say "Hey, put on something cute
tomorrow night, and be ready at 8... I'm going to
pick you up". If she asks what you're doing, just
say "Be ready, no questions". Pick her up, take
her to dinner, choose the food, and then bring her
home and put a candle on a cupcake and sing her
happy birthday. No asking her what she wants, no
telling her where you're going, and no seeking her
Get the difference? If not, read it again.
There's a way to do everything without coming
whats the best way to ask a girl out and is it
wrong if one girl says no when i ask her out i try
for another girl the same day?
The best way to ask a girl out is to say "Will
you please, please go out with me?" and if one
girl says no when you ask her out then it IS wrong
to try for another girl the same day. You must
wait at least 17 days after one "no" before you
may ask another girl out.
DOH! I broke my rule of not answering jackass
I am writing to tell you how much I enjoy your
tips. You will probably laugh because I am a
woman. I think that your advice is just as good
for women too. Have you considered writing a book
for women? You have the advantage of a male's
perspective and you could give good insights. I do
what to keep the chemistry going in my
relationship, to make my boyfriend feel proud and
happy and more manly. (I live in Europe and
English is not my native language, so please
excuse me if I made any mistakes.) Sincerely, AB
What is this world coming to?
We've got women who are working to make their
men feel proud and "manly".
Maybe you could get him some testosterone
replacement therapy or something?
Have him write to me... I'll verbally slap him
around a little... maybe that will get him to act
like a man all on his own.
But probably not.
First of all, let me utter my limitless thank
for providing me with an awesome product of great
value and I am extremely trilled reading it on and
on. Your material is worth like cash money even
more. I cannot describe how powerful it influences
repeatedly my best attention in this very hour of
crisis. I am impatiently awaiting the next
information of yours and reading your material is
the most interesting thing I have nowadays. Have a
great day there and thank you very much for your
guidance. Best regards, S
I wish to honestly and forthrightly accept your
limitless thank you, and convey my own profound
appreciation for your expression of gratitude.
Influencing your attention repeatedly in your
very hour of crisis is my only desire.
And you're welcome, too.
***COMMENTS FROM YET ANOTHER WOMAN***
As I was re-reading your "Challenging Woman"
newsletter, I had to say: "That's soooo me!" And
you make me want to share one of my fave C+F
memories of a man who gets what you talk about.
(Perhaps not one of the most thrilling examples of
C+F you've ever read, but this guy was just the
zen master of it, and just makes me appreciate
that which is male so much more! :D )
I met "M" on a datesite, and finally decided to
meet for lunch. Now, M. is not the kind of fella
that one would think as a chick magnet. At 5'6"
(and that's being generous) and a bit of a stocky
physique because of his short stature, he does not
strike one as handsome in the typical way most
people envision. But he had a lovely face, a
charming smile, and a gleam of sunny happiness
that just make me take notice of him at first
We sat down and got acquainted, and as I felt he
was comfortable with me, I started the female
version of Cocky and Funny: I call it "Feisty and
Sassy". And he clicked right in on my wavelength.
We kept this at a comfortable level, interjecting
personal info amongst good natured jabs. This guy
was fun and funny! So it got to the point were
he had made some statement that hinted he might
like me. And so I folded my arms and asked him in
my snottiest challenging smug voice, "So you admit
you like me then, eh?" He leaned back in his
chair, studied me for a moment, turned his head as
if to look out the window, flipped his hand
negligently at me, and sneered boredly, "Nah.
Don't like ya. Can't stant ya."And after a
pregnant pause of a few seconds, him still quietly
staring off to the side, he suddenly shot me a
mischievous glance with a cocked brow and a
naughty smirking grin. 'OOOOH!! Brat!! You
brat!! You complete brat!! Oh oh oh oh OH!!
(Think like a Sam Kinison scream!)' I didn't know
if I wanted to kiss him on the mouth or punch him
in the arm! Or both!! I was exasperated and
delighted at the same time. And I couldn't help
but shoot him back my pointy-toothed kitty-cat
smile. 'Oh you are SOOO asking for trouble!! And
you are gonna GET IT!!' And... uhm, let's just
say that he did. And I most enjoyed it, like I
knew I would. ;)
My theory, founded or not, is that if you ain't
much fun OUT of bed, you probably aren't that much
fun IN bed. Or anywhere else in the house, for
that matter. M. was just fun, period. Oh man, was
And I get mad when I hear some of your readers
write: "I'm short! I'm bald! I'm old! I'm fat! I'm
(whatever fault they perceive)! I don't stand a
chance, Dave!" Bullsh**. This is just insecurity
making excuses. (One of my fave professors in
college weighed 350lbs, balding, mid 50's, and
often dressed in shorts and threadbare T-shirts
during the summer. Not exactly a feast for the
eyes, but when his utter, almost arrogant,
confidence came thru, he was absolutely master of
his classroom domain. And when his kingly presence
filled the room, it was such a turn-on! Like
you've said, attraction is not logical, it is a
reaction. And something in me just when 'Whoa. Now
THAT's a man!')
M. was really short for a guy, and I didn't bat
an eye. His self-confidence and great attitude
just made me want to know him more. His sunniness
just preceded him, and when he opened his mouth,
he had the real deal to back it up. A man who
might have been using the C+F routine on me, but
he wasn't pretending to be confident: he WAS
confident! And a real sweetheart underneath.
Though I was intrigued from the moment I met him,
he clinched the deal with that little zinger. I
knew I was a gonner from that moment on. A man who
is genuinely comfortable with himself is a man who
I can be comfortable with. And know that he will
rise to the challenge and allow me to free the
depths of my passions, and he can handle it.
Because he can be himself, I can be myself. And
makes me want to reveal to him the inner-most
parts of me.
Let me tell ya, Dave, there are quite a few
advantages to being a "challenging woman". Just
too bad there aren't more players in this game.
Too many who meet my curious gaze and back down
before they even open their mouths. So sad, when I
saw something in them to even want to go out with
them. And they do not see that for themselves, and
do not believe in themselves. And the game is
lost before it ever started.
And when I think of your C+F techniques, I think
of Mitch, and wish more men had the confidence to
like themselves despite whatever their perceived
short comings. That little man was the gentle
master of C+F to me. And as far as I'm concerned,
he is the biggest man in the room, no matter where
Thank you, Dave, for giving men the tools to
meet the challenge, and challenge me in return.
How fun life is with a gleam in your eye. ;)
Long live the Sassy and Feisty, Ms. E LA, CA
"...if you ain't much fun OUT of bed, you
probably aren't that much fun IN bed. Or anywhere
else in the house, for that matter."
DAVE i can't front... your material is the
bomb.. no doubt.. im young, hip hop influenced,
and african american and what you convey crosses
any barrier... and you know how much attitude
women of our culture have, but it dont mean a
thing when a man knows whats really going on...
but anyway thanks, you tight, yada yada, down to
business. i got your ebook a month ago, and
studied it cover to cover, everyday so that the
information would go into my subconscious. at
first, i had trouble developing the C&F character
you talked about because i had to do a complete
360 from what i used to do. letting women punk me.
looking back, i had no spine but now, i get it...
TO MY SUCCESS... recently i went out to a live
club that alot of gorgeous women go too. i was
with 3 of my cousins who are used to me being just
okay when it comes to women. now clubs are not my
thing, but i said to myself lets do it. now before
i went in i kept in mind 3 things you talked
about. having a blase' persona, slowing down my
body movements, and the ''next'' attitude. so when
i first went in, i did a whole tour of the entire
club (away from my cousins) with my mind geared on
nothing but eye contact with women. just so i
could watch who was watching me. i had to laugh at
myself because some women were so obvious, wanting
my attention, but i played it cool. now usually, i
go straight to the dance floor, but this time i
decided to go to the lounge area and sit by myself
in a big booth, still keeping those principles in
mind. thats when it got crazy. i said to myself
whoever comes to sit, im on them. two twins come (
at least 8's ) and i bus on them. them: why you
chillen by yourself? me: you gotta come better
than that doublemints. them: ( astonished looks )
excuse me? (laughing, gradually turned into
smiles) me: i tell ya. girls here are so thirsty
for a guy like me. i heard that line 3 times
already. them: ( uncontrolable laughter ) you are
long story short, emails from both. and the rest
of the nite women approached me. and thats never
ever happened to me before. came away with 4
numbers and five emails, and didnt care if they
called ( 3 the next day did), and hardly gave the
effort. it was so natural. thanks
QUESTION there was a group of 3 girls that i
busted on and later got all there emails at the
same time, but didnt ask for ther numbers like you
advised, because i didnt want to have one of them
act up, and all of them leave. what do i do in
that case? ask for all the emails and then all the
numbers up front? there was only one pen so they
had to take turns using it. also what are some
good C&F responses for when a woman who is a 10
tests you, to bypass her multiple intial tests in
dg from ohio
Word (East-coast style)... (even though I'm
from the Westside and faking every bit of what I'm
about to say)...
See, tha thing is... if a fly ass hizzoe starts
frontin' and flexin' on your game, you got to roll
up on her and DROP THE KNOWLEDGE on her ass.
She be all bad and like, "I'm da bomb" (even
her "good hair" is a weave, and y'all know it)...
So you got to demonstrate that youz a BIG
baller... not one a these fake-ass thuggin MCz.
Keep yo game TIGHT.
[Hip-Hop voice turns back to my usual whiteboy
Just look her in the eye when she tests you,
and give her that cool, calm, sly smile that says
"That was almost cute, little girl".
Hot women are testing to find those little
clues that tell them that you're FAKING IT... that
you're just another loser who's trying to act
Don't drop the ball.
Give her a sly smile, and say "Cute"... and
then say "You love me".
Oh, and about your three hunnies...
Just tell them to write their numbers down!
The fact that they were sharing a pen and paper
is FANTASTIC. Really. Go with it.
You're doing fine... fine. Keep up the great
work, and I'll keep working on my Hip Hop.
Hey Dave, how goes?
So, I've been getting the letters for some time
now. Though the ideas made sense, the insight was
difficult for me to "GET" as you would say. I knew
how it made sense, but didn't. (Like your telling
someone how to drive a car comparison) Though I
wanted to understand, so I got the e-book.
Helpful, a very good read, but sadly I've never
been that greet with retaining information that
way. Not without reading it five billion times.
(Which I'm just trying to read more in general,
that might help) So, once again in effort to
understand I got the Adv. Series. Much, much
better. Watching, hearing the discussion, hell you
slamming those guys for their own good helps
understand the mentally of getting it, attraction,
and it being my reality. What I have found the
most beneficial is all the Inner Game material.
Don't get me wrong. I'm all about having 5
beautiful women fight over my attention, wanting
to buy me dinner & showing me what they recently
got at Victoria Secret. So, the dating tips are
nice. It is that the inner game material is
helping on the path to improve myself overall.
I've always been an Alpha male type, incredible
strong & independent. However it was all based on
conviction and not faith in myself. I say was
since I've been for a long time now trying to
change that. With that, your series has helped me
gain more ways of finding my way, believe in
myself, etc. For that I would like to thank you
personally. Thanks Dave.
Now don't get all mushy on me or anything....geez
N in Denver
Me get all mushy?
Dude, I thought you were going to try to hug me
there for a minute.
I saw that scene at the end of American Beauty
where Kevin Spacey was in the garage, and the dad
from next door was out in the rain...
Don't even go there.
Yeah, I kind of enjoy busting on guys for their
own good. It's not only fun, it's helpful.
I actually got a letter awhile back from a guy
who came to one of my seminars and commented that
he felt I was a little too harsh and condescending
with the guys that attended...
I thought to myself, "Huh? Did you travel all
that way and pay your good money to hear me tell
you that you're a wonderful, sweet, special human
being and all you need to do is believe in
yourself and everything will work for the greater
good in the end?".
We all need tough, brutally honest, Cocky &
Funny friends to help us wake up and see the
I'm glad you enjoyed it as much as I did.
Yesterday I was seeing DVD#6 of the Advance
Dating Program. And when I heard Brent's interview
I just couldn't believe it. This guy literally
blown my mind away and my perspective of see
reality change at the very moment. I gotta tell
you that when you ask for Brent's standing ovation
I was at my home applauding like a lunatic and
thanking god for I have find your information. So
my comment for your products are: They are an
excellent, brilliant and exceptional source of
packaged wisdom for us men.
Best Regards, VVG San Juan, PR
Glad you're enjoying them.
That last DVD in the series is amazing, isn't
The interviews that I did with those guys
ROCKED... There's nothing like being able to
actually see and hear guys who really know what
they're doing with women... and get a feel for
their body language, voice tone, and gestures.
I won't tell anyone that you were applauding to
I recently bought your book and I'd like to say
that it's great (I knew after 15 minutes that I
wouldn't need to ask for my money back - it really
IS that good). I've read it a few times and I
reading again to try and absorb all the material I
can. I'm practicing on a regular basis and I'm
still the the Apprentice stage of my
transformation (but loving every new
interaction!). I joined an online dating service
and I'm trying to figure out how to use the C+F
approach effectively without coming across as a
total jerk or worse. I realize that there are
probably tons of wusses on these sites as well so
what's the key to writing an email that will catch
their attention? I'm sure most of the hotties
(and average chicks) get a load of email from guys
that say crap like "I love to hold hands and go
for long walks on crisp, fall days...". If this
is an example of a wussmail, what is the best way
to write a C+F email that creates some attraction
and gets them chasing after me and not the other
Keep up the awesome work and keep these kickass
emails coming... they're gold!
M in BC
PS are you going to come up here anytime soon and
do a seminar for your Canadian bretheren (or at
least somewhere in the Pacific Northwest)?
OK, if you're going to do the online thing, you
must keep a few things in mind:
1. There are literally tens of millions of people
who are using the internet for dating. It's the
BIG THING right now.
2. Women who join dating sites get TONS of replies
3. If you want to be successful in the online
space, you need to remember that you're really in
a big numbers game.
4. Writing a great profile is one way to separate
yourself from the crowd, and turn the entire game
I could talk for days about the online dating
scene... but let me give you just a few key
If you want to increase your success in a BIG
way, you need to
1) Update your profile every day,and
2) Watch the new listings every day.
Why every day?
Because when you update your profile every day,
it brings your profile back to the "top of the
pile". In other words, most of the systems will
have your updated profile come up FIRST in search
results because it's "fresher".
And because if you keep your eye open for the
new listings from women every day, you can be one
of the FIRST guys to respond to her ad, instead of
the 347th guy.
You want to make contact, start communicating,
and GET ON THE PHONE.
Don't dilly-dally and write 50 emails back and
You're not looking for pen pals, so don't act
Next, make sure you put a TON of personality
into your own profile... AND your replies to
Instead of writing a profile that says "I'm a
nice, regular, boring guy who loves puppies and
rainbows and cuddling" say "I'm that guy your mom
warned you about. But hey, we both know that you
never listened to her...".
And instead of writing a reply to a woman's
profile that says "Hi, you sound like just the
girl I've been looking for all my life, and I
think we could have a great relationship", say
"Hey, you probably couldn't handle me... but I
thought I'd give you a chance anyway".
Have FUN. Put ENERGY and PERSONALITY into your
Watch a few episodes of Jackass, then put in a
James Bond movie, and wrap up with some Denis
And then write to some women.
By the way, the best education you can get on
Online Dating can be found... where else?
In my "Meeting Women Online" DVD/CD program.
Inside, you will learn directly from me and my
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and where to meet the kinds of women you'd like to
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If the idea of meeting women without having to
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From the Land Downunder... I think we'll just call
you "Son of Croc Dundee."
Here's an interesting observation, a success story
and a question.
In the late eighties/ early nineties at the height
of the feminist "revolution" in Oz there was a
constant refrain from women ... "Where have all
the men gone?" It was in the media, and women
spoke about this 'ailment' continually. Well the
short answer to this question is that they (the
women) had neutered them (the men) ... or rather
the men had allowed themselves to be neutered.
What you're doing here is important. Single handed
you're giving men back their self respect.
The success story.
I ran a version of that personal ad. The phone
didn't stop running hot for two weeks. If I had
wings I would fly. I might do it anyway.
Looking back on my two most recent (didn't work
out) relationships that were pre "Son of Croc
Dundee" I noticed a pattern. The 'didn't work
out' part happened when I was under some pressure
and the wimpy part of me emerged.
Now... everyone has problems, and I'm usually
strong enough to handle them. However, within the
law of the "Son of Croc Dundee" should you never
be "weak"? Hard call for a sensitive soul. What's
the balance here?
What say you Maestro?
P.S. AND... to those who haven't bought the book.
Run, jump, fly, swim as fast as you can to that
download page. It'll be the best investment you've
made since you were 13 and read that copy of
Penthouse that you'd found under your Father's
You know... you say that back in the late 80s
and early 90s women were asking "Where have all
the men gone?"...
Well, I think that women are saying it more
than EVER now.
I'm going to handle this in two parts. First I
want to address your initial comments, then I'd
like to answer your question. So first, your
One of my best friends told me about a
television show he saw that featured a woman who
was talking about male/female relationship
This woman was basically saying that a lot of
men in this day and age were raised by single
mothers, and that this has led to more and more
men acting like, well, girly-men. And, of course,
single women aren't looking for wussy-girly-men...
they're looking for "real" men.
I personally find this idea very intriguing.
When I watched the movie "Crouching Tiger,
Hidden Dragon"..., I saw something very
interesting. Part of the plot revolved around a
forbidden-love relationship. It's a common "movie"
theme, and it occurs in real life often as well.
Here's a summary...
In this movie, there was a troubled teenage
girl who was arranged to be married by her family.
Of course, she didn't love the guy, and wanted to
be free to find a love on her own.
As it turned out, she was also secretly a
super-duper martial arts bad-ass.
One day, while on a trip through the desert,
her entourage was attacked by a group of bandits.
The leader of the criminals was a Johnny Depp
looking Asian guy. He rode up, stole her fancy
hair-comb, and rode off.
Being the feisty girl that she was, she jumped
on a horse and rode into the desert after the bad
(but cute) boy.
They wound up fighting, wrestling and beating
the hell out of each other.
The long and the short of it is... he abducted
her, tied her up, and hid her away in a cave. And
somehow, right in the middle of it all, they began
Five years ago I would have watched this whole
sequence and said, "Well, it doesn't make any
sense, but it makes for a nice story..."
But now that I understand the illogical nature
of attraction and sexual chemistry, I see a
totally different picture.
When the cute bad-boy took off, and she rode
after him and started fighting with him, there
were two different levels of communication
On the surface, she was chasing him to get her
hair comb back.
But looking at it from a different perspective,
and looking at a deeper level, SHE HAD FINALLY MET
A MAN WHO WAS AN INTERESTING CHALLENGE... and she
responded instantly and powerfully by feeling
magnetically attracted to him in a way that caused
her to leave her group behind and risk her life.
And the fighting that occurred can be seen as
just plain fighting... or, if you understand male-
female dynamics, you can also see that on a
different level they were FLIRTING. The tension
that was building between them was also SEXUAL
She had finally met "a real man", and she
responded powerfully to him.
Not long after they fell for each other, the
bad-boy started to say some downright sensitive
things (I don't think he's read my book). He was
telling romantic stories about shooting stars, and
he risked his life to be with her again... and
confessed his love, etc.
This is a round-about way of addressing your
comments and answering your question, but this
story helps me to put my answers in perspective.
As far as being "a real man" goes, I think that
it's a good idea. Women respond powerfully to
"male-ness". If it is expressed in a powerful
way, it can create an amazing attraction inside of
a woman. As you've learned by reading my book,
there are a lot of simple ways to do this.
If you'd like to learn the "secret" that these
"real men" use to attract women, check this out:
On Being A Man
To answer your question "Should you ever be
weak?", I say:
Most men act weak ALL THE TIME when they are in
the presence of an attractive woman. This is a big
If a woman sees you as a "weak man", then
trying to "be strong" will never work. You will
only come across as a weak guy who's trying to
On the other hand, a guy who is thought of as a
"real man"... one who does not act weak during the
first several interactions with a woman, can have
a "weak moment" later on and actually have a woman
respond in a very powerful, positive way.
In other words, if you're perceived as a "real
man", then you can do whatever you want, and it
will be perceived as part of that personality.
But if you are perceived as a "weak man", then
NOTHING you can do will trigger the strong gut-
level attraction inside of a woman.
And nothing will change that picture inside of
a woman's head. Once you're thought of as a weak,
nice, ass-kissing guy, it's like an invisible
switch gets switched off inside of a woman. And
it's not coming back on anytime soon.
So, the big question is, how do you project
this "real man" image? How do you be yourself
while at the same time doing the things that
create attraction? How do you act in an authentic
way, while amplifying those parts of your
personality that are most likely to trigger the
attraction mechanism inside of women?
Part of the answer is to realize that just
about every communication has several levels of
meaning. When you tease, act cocky and funny, and
bust a woman's balls, you could viewed as being a
mean jerk. Or, if you do it right you can be
viewed as an interesting, sexy man.
This is a critical concept, and you need to
understand it if you want to succeed with women.
If you'd like to get an AMAZING education on
the technique I call "Cocky & Funny", then you
should check out my Cocky Comedy DVD/CD program.
This program will teach you everything from the
basics of humor and laughter... all the way to
dozens and dozens of specific "lines" to use in
every possible situation with women.
Go watch some of the video preview clips here,
and you'll get an idea of what I mean:
If you haven't read my eBook, I'd recommend
that you check it out. It'd taken me years to
learn, test, refine, and write all of this
information down. And you can learn it all in a
few hours of reading. You can download it and be
reading it within a few minutes:
Double Your Dating eBook
As our friend above wrote: "P.S. AND... to
those who haven't bought the book. Run, jump,
fly, swim as fast as you can to that download
page. It'll be the best investment you've made
since you were 13 and read that copy of Penthouse
that you'd found under your Father's bed."
I personally think it's an even BETTER
investment than dad's Penthouse mags...
And if you're ready to REALLY step up and get a
WORLD-CLASS education on the topic of women and
dating... and get the most advanced program
available for learning how to meet and date more
women, then you need to check out my Advanced
Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program.
It is literally JAM PACKED with HUNDREDS and
HUNDREDS of killer techniques for overcoming your
fears, improving your self image, approaching
women, getting phone numbers, getting dates,
meeting women online, and about a bazillion other
Here are the details, plus some great video
This program will BLOW YOUR MIND, and you'll
INSTANTLY learn secrets that it has taken me YEARS
and YEARS to figure out.
Talk to you again soon.
David D.Dynimitehttp://email@example.com:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-5038.6669042008-01-03T21:00:50-08:002008-01-03T21:00:50-08:00The best ways to ask a woman outThe Best Way To Ask A Woman Out
Do you have "negative emotions" come up when
you think of approaching women, asking them
out, or taking things to a "physical level"?
If you think that you might need a little
"extra" help in this area, then take a minute
and read THIS:
Deep Inner Game
I have a question for you...
When you get a woman's number and you're
picking up the phone to call and "ask her out",
does it bother you?
Do you get freaked out?
Do you start thinking about exactly what you're
going to say, how you're going to say it, how to
deal with her rejecting you... etc.?
Do you ever get NERVOUS when you're dialing the
You know that feeling when you just start
getting anxious for no logical reason, and you
just CAN'T control it?
Have you ever had to actually HANG UP because
you were so damn freaked out... and you just
couldn't follow through with it?
OK, now another set of interesting questions...
Have you ever called a woman, and started
talking to her, only to realize that she was in a
COMPLETELY different mood from the last time?
Have you ever had a woman "turn cold" on you
all of a sudden?
It's almost like you're talking to a different
person from the girl you met just a day or two
before... and it makes no sense to you... right?
Have you ever worked up the nerve to call,
gotten her on the phone, had a great conversation,
but when it came time to ask her out, you froze up
because you didn't know what to say?
Or even worse, have you ever gotten to the end
of the conversation and asked her out, only to
have her answer with:
"Well, maybe... call me Friday afternoon... OK?"
"Actually, I'm going to be busy all this week, but
thanks for asking... (silence)"...?
Have you ever had one of those conversations
where you could just TELL that something wasn't
right... and that she wasn't going to be taking
you up on your date offer, or calling you back at
all anytime soon?
So why all the problems?
What is it about these particular few minutes
that constantly ends in problems for guys?
I personally think that this issue comes down
to a few key DEEPER ISSUES.
And I think that if you don't have these other
issues "handled", you're going to keep running
into problems... and NEVER even know WHY...
I mean, it's bad enough to keep having a
particular problem and not figure out how to solve
it... but the idea that the solution is in doing
something you would never think of is a little bit
In other words, I think that this is all about
understanding the problem, and actually PREVENTING
it from coming up... rather than trying to "solve
it" in the moment.
Let me put it this way...
If you're dialing the phone, and you're
starting to feel nervous, then it's already too
late to solve the problem.
No quick fix will help you.
Or if you're on the phone with her and you have
just asked her out on a date, and she says "Um,
let me call you back in a few days and tell
you"... and you start to get that sinking feeling
because you know she's blowing you off... IT'S TOO
There's no "magic pill" at this point.
The answer is PREVENTION.
THE MAGIC FORMULA
So, let's take a few minutes and talk about the
issues and what CAUSES them.
Here are some of the "root causes", and how I
1) Having no other options.
If you're sitting at the phone with ONE phone
number in your hand, and you haven't been out on a
date in a long time, and you are feeling
DESPERATE, you're probably going to get VERY
When you have no other options, the single one
in front of you becomes VERY valuable.
Translation: You want it TOO badly.
This AUTOMATICALLY triggers your emotional
system, because at some level you realize that if
you screw this up, it's all over. And you know
that it's all going to happen in just a few
The pressure is too much!
2) Putting too much importance on a single girl.
Now, if you have a girl that you've been dating
for six months, and you've decided that she's one
in a million, it makes sense to put a lot of
importance on your relationship with her.
But, if you don't know a girl very well, or you
haven't even dated her at all, then you are only
setting yourself up for major disappointment by
putting too much importance on ANY girl.
3) Thinking you need to IMPRESS her.
This is a HUGE issue.
Most men "subconsciously" behave and
communicate like they're trying to IMPRESS the
woman of their desires.
When you think about this, it only makes
sense... of course you'd want to impress the woman
you like... so she'll think you're a cool guy and
want to be with you.
But have you ever thought for a moment how an
interesting, attractive woman sees it when a guy
is TRYING to IMPRESS her?
Well, here's the INSTANT and SUBCONSCIOUS
response that women have:
"He's trying too hard. There's something wrong.
This guy must have something he's trying to
hide... and he must be pretty insecure."
In other words, the INSTANT you do something or
say something that is an obvious attempt at
impressing a woman, her radar system screams:
By the way, this is really a much DEEPER issue.
If you need to "evict your inner wussy", then
take a second and read THIS:
On Being A Man
4) Having expectations and being attached to them.
You might think of this one as a variation of
"wanting it too much"... only slightly different.
When you start getting your hopes and
expectations up, you begin to get ATTACHED to
Then you run the risk of HOLDING ON TOO TIGHT
to your little fantasy.
Women don't date guys who assume too much, act
too comfortable, or fall for them too quickly.
Remember, beautiful women have guys falling for
them left and right.
In fact, they almost EXPECT to go out on
one or two dates with a guy and then say, "You
know, I really like you..." or some other equally
Just like being desperate can destroy your
chances with a woman, liking a woman too much, too
fast and creating expectations leads to crazy,
stupid mistakes as well.
Now, think over what I just said...
I'm basically saying that if you want to cure
the problem of freaking out when you call women to
ask them out and the problem of screwing it up
when you have that first conversation and ask them
out the first time, then you have to go INSIDE
first... and do some preventative maintenance on
And the GOOD NEWS is that this stuff is not
only good for you, it also helps you get even MORE
dates with interesting women.
So, here's what to do about this particular
1) Get more options.
If you go out one evening with a couple of
friends, and you meet a REALLY hot girl... and you
wind up having a fun conversation and getting her
number, what should you do?
RIGHT! Go get at least ONE MORE girl's number.
More, if you can.
This way, when you're picking up the phone to
call (or sending out emails, or whatever), you've
got another woman to call right after her...
In other words, if it doesn't go well, no big
deal. No sweat at all.
Instead of putting all your "hopes" in this one
situation, go get more options... this will
prevent many problems as well as giving you more
women to date!
And think about it... when are you MOST likely
to get a woman's phone number? When are you most
likely to be in a great mood that actually
Exactly... in the moments after you've already
gotten another woman's number.
So take advantage of this time!
2) Dial the phone expecting it to NOT work out
with this girl.
I have news for you: Most women have something
about their personality, behavior, future plans,
etc. that is going to disqualify them from being
good "potential mates" for you.
Now, I'm not saying that "all women are screwed
What I AM saying is that you need to realize
that the only reason you're freaking out so much
is because your EMOTIONS are running the show.
You need to think about how rare it is that you
actually meet a girl that is COMPATIBLE with
you... that you'd enjoy spending time with even if
she wasn't good-looking.
If you have this in mind as you're dialing the
phone, you won't have that "I'm desperate" vibe
You won't be talking like a guy who has a gun
to his head either... which is a good thing...
because women get weirded out by this kind of
3) Instead of asking a woman out, tell her what
you're doing, and then tell her she can come along
if she wants.
Why is "asking a woman out" early on a bad
idea? Because if you don't have a world-class
understanding of male/female dynamics, you're
going to come across as a guy who is trying to use
food as date-bait.
In other words, if the first thing out of your
mouth is "I'd like to take you out to dinner" it's
going to be interpreted as "I don't think you're
probably going to accept an invitation to spend
time with me unless I throw in something
And that's how SHE sees it.
Tell her that you're going to be doing
something and that she should join you.
"Hey, I'm going to go down to Starbucks and get
a cup of tea. You should join me. I'm way more fun
than whatever else you were going to do... and
that's a fact!"
Extra bonus points:
Hint that she's missing out if she doesn't
If she hems and haws, or hesitates... just
interrupt and say, "Hey, you're the one who's
I also like "You know, never mind. I guess you
don't like to have fun...".
This is solid Cocky & Funny material, and it's
the right time to use it.
You know, I personally used to get VERY freaked
out when calling women for the first time on the
phone... and "asking them out".
Now that I understand this particular "moment
in time" better, and now that I understand more of
the "dynamics" of what's going on, I get MUCH
better results personally...
In fact, I never get "nervous" anymore when
calling women, and I rarely if EVER have a woman
"flake out" on me.
Now, in this newsletter I've shared a few
points to help you get better results in this
particular area. Use them. They'll definitely help
You should read this newsletter right before
you call every one of the next 10 women you
meet... in fact.
But as you can probably tell, this is just one
of MANY important facets of success with women.
In fact, this is just scratching the surface of
the skills you'll need if you want to have
CONSISTENT success with the most DESIRABLE women.
The reality of this situation is that if you
want to take control of this area of your life
and not walk helpless with women anymore, you're
going to need to take more steps to get yourself
educated on this topic.
And what's the best way to do that quickly,
easily and without spending years of time and
lots of money learning the HARD WAY?
My Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
This program will take you step-by-step through
all the key theories, concepts, and techniques
you'll need to start meeting and dating more women
And here's another interesting benefit that
comes from going through my Advanced Dating
It actually CHANGES HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD.
The first time you listen to it or watch it,
you'll be hitting your head saying "Ah ha! Ah ha!"
the whole time.
All of those things that have happened to you
with women will start to make sense.
All of the times you screwed up will stop
bothering you, because you'll "get" what
happened... and all of the times that things
worked will also make sense.
Of course, you'll also be shaking your head as
you learn some of the most amazing techniques for
approaching women, getting numbers, getting dates
and taking things to a more "physical level" that
have ever been created (For example, I share all
of my own personal favorite "pick up lines" that
work better than anything I've ever heard of for
approaching women... and I don't share these
anywhere else except in my intensive live
But, one of the REAL benefits comes AFTER you
go through it. This is when the real MAGIC starts
When you're out at restaurants watching the
couple at the next table, you'll UNDERSTAND what
When a woman starts doing something subtle that
you would have never noticed before, you'll SEE
it... and she'll SEE that you see it... and you
will instantly be talking to her on a DIFFERENT
LEVEL... all because you know something that most
other guys don't.
When you encounter "resistance" or "problems"
or "tests" from women, you will no longer need to
get nervous or upset, because you'll know what TO
DO about it... and when you actually DO the right
thing you'll see that problem disappear.
The point that I'm trying to make is that this
education will not only teach you techniques for
meeting women, it will also give you a new POWER
that you never had before.
I can honestly say to you that if this program
were available five or so years ago when I started
learning this stuff, I would have gladly traded
ANYTHING I owned for it... or paid any amount of
But it wasn't, so I had to take YEARS figuring
all of this stuff out for myself.
This program is priceless, and it's worth at
least ten times what you'll invest for it. As you
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In other words, order it now, go through it
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I'm that confident that it will take your
success with women to a whole new level.
All the details, plus some great samples are
If you've gone through my Advanced Dating
Techniques program and you really enjoyed the
"inner game" aspects of the program... then I
HIGHLY recommend that you check out my programs
that are SPECIFICALLY designed to help you with
those INNER issues... like overcoming fear,
developing a powerful self image and high self-
esteem, and becoming "resilient"...
My program called "On Being A Man... Who
Naturally Attracts Women" will teach you secrets
to developing that part of you that might be
described as "Masculine Power". It will help you
to understand why women are SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to
men who are REAL MEN... and how to develop
yourself into one of these men who are NATURALLY
attractive to women.
It's hard to describe this program in a few
sentences, so go read about it here, and watch the
preview video clips:
On Being A Man
And if you'd like an introduction to my main
concepts and techniques, then you need to start
with my eBook, Double Your Dating. It's the
foundation for everything that I teach in these
newsletters, and it's a MUST-read. It's here:
Double Your Dating eBook
I'll talk to you again soon.
David D. Dynimitehttp://firstname.lastname@example.org:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-5038.6669032008-01-03T20:59:37-08:002008-01-03T20:59:37-08:00How To Approach A Woman and Take Her HomeHow To Approach A Woman & Take Her Home
>If you want to learn how to successfully approach
women, then you're going to need to learn both
the "inner" game - which is all about overcoming
fear and building confidence - and the "outer"
game - which is all about having the SKILLS and
"lines" for the different situations you'll find
yourself in. And where's the best way to learn
to MASTER both? Glad you asked, it's right HERE:
Got your book a few weeks ago. It's brilliant.
It's magic. It's a religion. I am impressed. At
30, I've doing better now than in college since I
LET myself get wussified over the past few years.
I can now, cold-turkey, walk up to just about any
woman I want to, and bust her friggin' balls with
a straight face and a slight smirk. Their defense
shields melt before my eyes. But, alas, I have a
question. It seems when I'm meeting women, within
an hour or so, I usually end up making out with
them or touching them all over ...while they kiss
and touch me back of course. Getting numbers isn't
enough. I want to advance the meeting from the bar
or the party straight to the bed-room without all
the email and phone call. What is the best way of
doing that? Also....after making out with this one
lady I met, after meeting her in a parking lot at
a liquor store (go figure), she emails me back a
week later saying she wants to pursue friendship
first and get to know me. It seems I am perhaps
being too agressive. How can I be agressive yet
sly about it? Any help would be great. I love
OK, my book is magic? A RELIGION?
I accept the "brilliant" compliment, and I can
even allow the "magic" concept... but let's stay
away from the religion comments... lol.
To answer your first question, about how to
skip all the emails, calling, and "dating" and go
straight to the bedroom...
Do two things:
1) Don't focus on "the bedroom". Focus on taking
things to the next step... and the next... and the
2) As soon as you meet a woman, treat it like
you're going on a date together.
Let me explain.
If you meet a girl you really like, spark some
major chemistry, start kissing her, etc. you're
probably going to get some resistance if you look
at her and say "OK, let's leave your friends here
and go back to my place so I can SHAG you".
That's just a hunch.
But, if you meet her, spark the attraction,
start kissing, and then say... "Hey, come with
me", and then take her hand and lead her to
another part of the club or bar... or take her to
the dance floor... or some combination... and then
start kissing again... and then stop (two forward,
one back)... and then say, "Hey, I'm going to this
other bar, come along with me"... and then once
you're there you continue, all the way until
closing, when you say, "Hey, let's keep talking...
this is fun. Give me a ride home..." etc., etc.,
I think you can see where I'm going with this.
A woman wants to feel that things are
developing naturally, not that you are just trying
to get her into bed as fast as you can.
If the evening unfolds in a normal, natural
way, and you can progress from one level to the
next, you'll do very well and go very far.
Why do you lead her to another part of the
club, and then take her somewhere else?
Physically leading a woman is VERY powerful,
and leaving together/showing up somewhere else
together changes things. When you arrive at the
new place, even though you're the same two people
that just met, you're now TOGETHER at the new
And when you suggest continuing to talk, and
her giving you a ride home (or some variation),
it's not like saying "Come shag me". You're making
it clear that you want to spend time with her, and
it leaves the possibility of ANYTHING happening
And as for the girl you met in the parking lot
who emailed you a week later saying "Let's pursue
a friendship first", what she was probably REALLY
"I can't believe that I made out with you after
meeting you in a parking lot of a liquor store.
I'm not like that. So let's get together sometime
on a more casual basis, and if you DO EXACTLY WHAT
YOU DID WHEN WE FIRST MET I'LL PROBABLY WIND UP
MAKING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN."
Think about it.
Dave, I just recently read your e-book so I am
still working on techniques but I can say I am a
30 something, short, spare tire, receding hair
line guy (I think girls would say I'm cute though)
who, until a few weeks ago (when I read your
book), was still falling into the 'just friends'
category way too many times. Since then, I've cut
off 3 'friends' and started working on myself,
i.e. joined a gym, cleaned up my apartment, and am
working on my wardrobe. 2 weekends ago, I was
making out with a cute 22 yr. old, with a catwalk
model body in my apartment using the 2 step
forward, 1 back technique (my roommate came in or
it may have gone further). It was actually pretty
easy because I didn't really care one way or the
other if it happened. My problem is I have
another girl that I don't think I've crossed into
the 'friend' realm just yet, but I can't seem to
advance to the next level. We run with the same
set of friends and I took her out for her birthday
once so we're somewhere between bridge #2 and #5.
We email and talk on the phone quite a bit and I
can keep the conversations short and reasonably
C&F (our friends tell me she thinks I'm
mysterious), but I can't get it to go anywhere
physically. I hinted at going out on a date one
time last week in an email and she responded to
everything in the email but that. My response has
been to stop answering her emails and calls, she
sent an email today that just said 'where are
you?'. (she is actually calling my cell phone now
as I write this).
My question is this, do I run like hell (in which
case I hope I could get some suggestions on making
an easy break since we have the same friends), or
work on my seduction techniques with her. If the
latter, I would greatly appreciate some tips on
crossing the next bridge. M
P.S. I've read some of the other stuff out there
and yours is one of the few that shows guys how to
get the upper hand in a respectful manner. Thanks.
Don't talk to her for a few days.
Then, call her up and say "What are you doing
RIGHT NOW?... I think you should come over and
hang out with me."
Call on a Saturday or Sunday around noon.
If she comes over, immediately LEAVE after she
Go have a cup of tea, do some window shopping,
and DON'T cling to her, look at her too much, or
act like you are feeling attracted to her. Lean
back. Tease her a lot. Tell her how she's screwing
up her chances with you, etc.
Finally, once you get back to your place,
proceed with The Kiss Test... and you'll be fine
You need to relax. Don't run like hell, and
don't get so hung up on this one girl.
We guys always want the one we can't have...
and it's a problem. Stay on track improving
yourself, meeting other women, etc. That's the
One question, how would you change your self-
Deep Inner Game
...a short question deserves a short, direct
You are the man!! I'll try to make this short and
sweet. I work at club/bar here in FL so i meet
plenty of beautiful women. I have to tell you that
the cocky and funny routine works wonders for me.
I have been doing it for years but never knew
exactly what i was doing right until i read your
newsletter. My situation goes like this: after
work the bartenders and a couple managers always
stay after for drinks. We usually just share
stories about drunk customers or talk about how
the night was. Since i work the front door at this
club, i always have a story or two about girls
willing do just about anything to get in there or
girls wanting to take me home after. Now there is
this bartender that i work with that i like and
been pouring extra c&f her way, and she eats it
up. We went out to breakfast after work this past
saturday, and one thing that bothered me was that
when we were talking over breakfast, she said
"before this, i thought you were a player and a
little bit of a whore." I was in a bit of shock
but reacted nicely by saying "of course YOU would
think that, and that is exactly why i dont date
bartenders, you guys are too judgmental" she hit
me in the arm, but had the biggest smile on her
face. When i took her back to her car, we ended up
kissing for a bit. This is all great and
everything, but my question to you is, am I being
too cocky and funny here or was she just testing
me with that comment she made??? G, in sunny
You're doing EXACTLY the right thing.
Don't doubt yourself.
The fact that she hit you, and had the big
smile tells the whole story.
You (and many other guys) must get over the
idea that just because a woman knows you date a
lot of other women doesn't mean that she won't
This doesn't make a lot of sense, but women are
often MOST attracted to PLAYERS.
It makes you MORE attractive when you have a
lot of women that want you... not less.
You're fine. Keep it up!
I thought these letters of success were
promotional B.S. But.....
A few months ago I was introduced to this really
hot lady and I said all the "nice to meet you"
stuff to and she seemed to be annoyed at my
existence. Well I crawled away in disgrace and was
told she had no interest in me. Read some of your
stuff and ran into her a few weeks later and
started talking your language to her. I mentioned
to her that I might have taken an interest if she
exercised once and a while and picked up some
fashion tips. Well, that worked especially well
because she is a health and beauty pro to boot. I
kept it up and no kidding, SHE asked me out!
And by the way, I kept it up on our date and she
couldn't leave me alone, Amazing.
R.D. in CA.
Oh, ye of little faith.
You thought these newsletters full of success
stories were just "promotional B.S."?
Well, they're promotional, that's the damn
But they're not B.S.
Every letter I print in these newsletters is
real... every single one of them... from day 1.
And probably 99% of them are unedited as well
(sometimes a letter is just too long, or unclear,
or the writer doesn't speak English well, so I'll
edit for clarity, but this is very rare).
By the way, I realize that the things I teach
sound a little bit bizarre. Believe me, it took me
a couple of years of hard work just to figure this
stuff out... and a lot of it doesn't exactly make
But, all you have to do is start using it to
see that it works. Good job... you're doing the
Just a quick story. Once again you were right on
with advice!! I changed my online profile with a
popular dating service and have gotten four emails
after the new profile was up only 1 hour!! What
did I change? I made it short and funny. Here is
the typical response I got: "Your profile really
made me laugh. You have a great sense of humor.
That's refreshing. I have a hard time finding
guys who are truly funny. There's not shortage of
guys who THINK they're funny, but it's nice to see
some of you are still out there. I'm attaching my
profile. I'm 37, never married (yeah I know..
means there must be something wrong) and like to
laugh and have a good time. If you don't respond,
I'll just have to go back to collecting cats and
being the neighborhood spinster. ha ha. I hope to
hear from you." As you would say Dave, "Love it"!
You are the man!!! E. Chicago
Yes, this stuff works online just as well as in
person... sometimes even better.
You might remember the one newsletter several
months ago where the guy took some of the stuff
from my Advanced Series and copied it word-for-
word to create an online personal ad, and then
wound up getting all kinds of emails from women
saying "Come over to my house and have sex with
me... you're turning me on". lol...
When you're Cocky & Funny online, it really
triggers a FUN, witty, sassy part of women... and
they love it.
By the way, if you're reading this right now
and you want results like this online, go and
read THIS right now:
Meeting Women Online
Even though you claim not to be an
expert when it comes to relationships, I'd
appreciate if you would give me some input on my
little situation. I've been seeing this girl for
for about a month now but I don't seem to be able
to get to the next level. There is no question
that she likes me since she keeps calling and
suggesting to do things together. However, she
insists on bringing up that she's gotten hurt in
the past which apparently makes it hard for her to
trust guys. According to me that is pretty damn
dumb; we've all been hurt, haven't we. GET OVER
IT! Anyway, my question to you is, how do I earn
her trust? Are there any shortcuts? Help me out
here palsky... J, PA,
My guess: You're probably acting like a WUSSY
with her, and she doesn't feel any ATTRACTION for
She's probably hanging in there, hoping that
SOME kind of feelings will develop for you... but
it's not working.
Look, when a woman says:
"I only like you as a friend"
"I've been hurt, so I want to take this slow"
"I like you so much, I don't want to lose you
as a friend"
...or any of the million variations of these
things, it USUALLY means that you're not doing the
things it takes to create ATTRACTION.
She doesn't FEEL IT for you.
And if she doesn't FEEL IT, then there ARE NO
shortcuts, my man.
Stop being such a "nice" guy, and start doing
the things you're learning from me to spark some
Oh, and don't call me "palsky".
And no, "palmeister" isn't any better.
Just wanted you to know how your DVD program
changed my life. I'm 45, 5'8" and weigh 179 lbs.
I met this beautiful 29 yr. old 6'2" 9.5 model.
It's amazing how just using your "let's be
friends, if nothing else" technique worked like a
charm on this very beautiful girl. After I invited
her to see me at a local Starbucks Cafe I
immediately started busting on her over her
height. We were sitting down drinking some coffee
when I grabbed her had gently and told her to
kneel down on the floor so I could have eye
contact and tell her something important. She
went along my C&F attitude. Then I told her "who
know, you might make a good friend but please get
off up the floor and stop proposing to me". "Your
making me feel really uncomfortable in front of
all these people and besides that I'm not an easy
catch". That did it from there, it just blew her
mind out. She just started laughing and couldn't
stop. We been dating ever since. I left a lot of
details out because this story would be too long.
Your cost for your DVD program is like a dime in a
bucket, when you realize that you get so much more
Thanks Dave, J.C.
Yeah, well if you've now attracted a 6'2"
model, then maybe you should send me more money.
I'm open to the idea.
Seriously, great job. You really get it.
It's so amazing when you take something like a
woman's natural height (which she usually gets
compliments on) and turn it around on her... and
use it to tease her.
If you're talking to a super model and you say
"You know, just because you're beautiful and are
used to being treated like a sex object doesn't
mean that you can treat ME like one"... it's
magic. (Not quite a religion, but it is magic.)
It's great to hear that the material is working
in Puerto Rico. You have some major hot babes
there (and if J Lo is any indication, they've got
some serious BACK down there as well).
I would not like to sound like the other 1 million
(+,- 100,000) of your followers but your stuff
really is excellent. I got your eBook few months
ago and keep reading newsletters. What I have
realized, for me the problem is not that I don't
know what to do, but I rather can't do it. Some
serious self-esteem issues which don't let me to
get the maximum out of c&f. I know exactly what I
need to do - practise!!!! but I just can't get my
nerv up. I do keep improving but slowly. Can't
just walk to any girl I like and ask for the info.
Not right now. It's simple only when I'm drunk and
clubbing. Then I really don't care what happens,
just have fun and surprisingly the girls are very
friendly. Of course only when I haven't got too
Anyway I've got a question. Sometimes I set up a
date online with a girl I just started to talk and
propose to meet in 2 hours. Well, this has
happened and turned out pretty well. Then we get
to some pub. And what I really don't like is to
buy her a drink. Its ok to buy tea her but I
wouldn't like to have tea lets say friday or
saturday night at 9. I can afford buying her tea
but not drinks. I mean I'm a poor-ass student.
It's kind of wierd to order drinks and take care
of the bill and then tell her e.g. "everybody pays
for his/hers drink", "you owe me 3.75." I do this
all the time with my friends. But feel wierd to do
it with a girl. Afterall it was me who invited
her, I ordered the booz. Any c&f solutions to
solve the situation?
A, from Estonia where women are gorgeous, there
are lots of them and the only sheep is the
OK, no comments on the political humor... but I
like the way you think.
After I'm finished checking out the 6'2" models
in Puerto Rico, I'll have to stop by your neck of
I have a few brainstorms for you... to help you
avoid buying drinks at the pub:
1) Keep your Friday and Saturday nights free. Go
out with your friends on those nights, and just
avoid dates. I have many friends that follow this
rule, and it works very well for them.
2) Make a lot of friends at the pubs, bars, etc.
that are in your area. Invite the bar tenders,
doormen, etc. to parties that you hear about...
bring them gifts... and just generally figure out
how to get in their good graces. In other words,
become the guy that NEVER pays for drinks in the
first place, because they're GIVEN to you.
3) Lead. Don't do things you don't want to do.
Only go to places YOU want to go to. Women will
respect you and what you want if you just lead.
It's incredible, your stuff works universally,
worldwide. Yes, it does. I stumbled across your
website when I was searching the internet some
months ago. First off, there is nothing like this
available in German. I thought it would be a good
idea to deal with your material since I study
American English among other subjects. Learning
two things at the same time ;-). Hell, I was such
a shy, desperate, depressed 'wussy' (didn't find
that word in 3 dictionaries). I really needed to
get this thing handled... Last night I went to a
dance club with one of my best friends who is very
good with women. I was having a great time and all
of a sudden, there was a girl who asked me if I
would go frequently to this club. She said she
would have noticed me if I had been there before.
That's when the game started. I was saying and
doing things I NEVER would have said or done
before. I was making fun of her and teasing all
night. I made up a story that I was a Swiss guy
who evaluates the girls and the premises for a
snobbish swiss scene-magazine. It was obvious that
I was making fun but later she said she almost
believed me. We had a lot of fun when we were
describing how our dreamgirl/dreamboy would be
like. I teased her about her 'exorbitant
expectations' and guessed her age about 38 (she's
22). After some close dancing, she said she needed
to sit down for a while because her feet were
aching. I said I don't massage sweaty feet and she
would need to find somebody else for that job. She
called me a jerk and pinched me more than once ;).
Then she kissed me. The kissing and touching
became hotter and hotter during the night. She
seemed to know everybody in the club. All the time
there were people coming giving comments and
grinning. She made me acquaint with a VERY
beautiful waitress at the bar who is her best
friend. I asked her to write down her email-
address and she said I was the first guy ever who
asked her about her email and not her phone-number
;-). She gave me her two numbers and her email of
course. More than that, she was actually BEGGING
ME to call her!! At 5 they began to shut the club,
she pulled me in a corner and I heard people
saying 'they bite each other'. Then, she invited
me to her apartment, added that the waitress from
the bar would sleep there as well and asked me if
I would mind. And she said she was so tired she
could only play the passive part... It was CRYSTAL
CLEAR what she wanted from me. I said I would call
her and after ten more minutes she eventually let
And here comes my big problem. It sounds
unbelievable but I'm, ahem... I am still a virgin.
Yes, it's true. You wouldn't believe it if you see
me. I'm 21 years old and pretty good looking, I
have to say. I did and do a lot of sports and I
think nobody in my environment would assume that
I'm a virgin. I don't know how this could happen.
Well, I did a little research in some German
internet newsgroups and forums. It seems that for
most women, this condition is not very pleasant,
to put it mildly. It's a big turn-off. They must
think you're a bloody loser and something can't be
right with you if you haven't managed to do it at
that age. And that's unlikely that you can give
pleasure if you are that inexperienced. It means
more work with you than fun. In the best case,
they judge it neutrally. And to come back to the
first part of the message, I don't know what to do
when we come together the next time. Tell her, not
tell her? I believe she wouldn't believe me or
think I'm dishonest if I tell her right off. At
least she would notice at some point... I don't
know what to do. Have you an answer? Please
include this in your next newsletter. Help is
greatly appreciated. D from Germany
First, you're doing GREAT. Nice job.
You probably read the newsletter that I sent
out a while back... where I addressed this.
Don't worry about it.
The FEELINGS that you're giving her will FAR
MORE than make up for any lack of experience on
If you're with her, making out, and you stop to
say "You know, I don't have any experience in this
area" you're probably just going to kill the vibe.
Don't worry about it!
Just keep going... you're going to be fine.
By the way, I love your "I'm a Swiss guy who
evaluates the girls and the premises for a
snobbish swiss scene-magazine" line. Brilliant.
Also, love the guessing that she was 38 when
she was obviously in her early 20s. Great stuff.
What's up dave? I've emailed ya before so I won't
get into the "How Great Thou Art" speech..lol Got
your CD series, and of course it's Da Bomb! I just
wanna share a success story. Well right now I have
3 "project" women, so to speak. They all say they
"want" me, in more ways than one..hehe thanks to
your teachings I have the confidence to get any
woman I want, I can be choosey. I love it, it's
like a cool Jedi Mind Trick. Anyways on the the
story, I was talkin to a girl I'm considering
meeting (met her on the internet, she contacted me
first cause of my C+F personality). She brought up
the topic of goin out and she said, "so when are
you taking me out?", and I said (your gonna love
this), "I think the real question is when are you
taking ME out?". She said "I could do that". Then
I go on to bustin on her about how she better not
take me to McDonalds and the dollar theater, cause
you hafta wine and dine me a little..lol Later on
into the convo she said sometime about how the
conversation was making her so hot and bothered.
So I go on busting on her about tryin to have
phone sex with me and that I'm not that easy..
wow, she was lovin it. She begged me to come over
and well.. finish her.. hehe. Of course I turned
her down and told her, we would pick up where she
left off sometime later in the week.. cause you
gotta give them the gift of missing you. Your
stuff rocks!!! I have more women who want me than
I have time for. I play in 3 bands so my time is
limited and gives me an excuse to not call or not
be available all the time. BUY DAVE'S CD/DVD AUDIO
SERIES, IT ROCKS!!!!
-jedi in training in ohio
You know, I love the shameless marketing you're
doing for me here.... nice.
By the way, you mentioned something here that
is just great... when a woman brings up sex on the
telephone, it's GREAT to make fun of her and tell
her to stop trying to have phone sex with you. It
says all the right things.
And turning it around when a woman says "So
when are you taking me out"... and asking her in
return is also a wonderful comeback.
Thanks again for the comments... when a guy who
plays in 3 bands says that my stuff ROCKS, it must
Great stuff... after slipping a bit in my late
20's with the ladies, your e-book and cd's have
helped me recapture what had made me successful -
c+f... even though I didn't know what it was
called or the science behind it, my past success
was always based on this attitude, as I am
naturally funny. Quick success from the other
night: I am with a few friends at a hot place
on the sunset strip and we see two hotties. One
is a 9, the other an 8.5. I see they are getting
their dinner check and tell the waitress to give
them a message - "You've been checking us out all
night (not true, incidentally) and you should
probably buy us a round before you leave." They
look totally confused when they get the message.
The waitress returns and says the hotties think we
should pick up their dinner tab. So, I pull out a
business card and write "If you think we're the
type of guys who go for gold-digging, you're sadly
mistaken. I think you owe us an apology and a
round of drinks." Well they get this, nearly keel
over laughing, and within minutes were seated at
our table. I never let up, busting her balls the
whole time before announcing in the middle of the
laugh fest that I needed to leave. They were
shocked and asked me to stay. I declined, saying
that I wasn't going to put out on the "first date"
and their begging was making me uncomfortable. I
left, digits from the 9 in hand. This stuff
works and I recommend it to everyone one of my guy
thanks, c in hollywood
This is one of my FAVORITES!
One of the best Cocky & Funny themes is "reverse
If a woman says, "Give me your number" and you
say, "Look, I'm not that easy... don't think that
just because I give you my number that I'm going
to go out with you or sleep with you"...
Or if you're talking to a woman at a bar, and
the conversation is going well, you say "OK, let's
just cut to the chase... are you going to offer to
buy me a drink or what?"...
Attractive women INSTANTLY connect with the
humor because you're turning around situations
that they have happen ALL THE TIME... and making
something funny out of them.
Of course, you're also adding a Cocky
element... the element of "You want me, it's
Incidentally, if you'd like to get a TON of
great Cocky & Funny themes and lines for specific
situations, then you really should check out my
"Cocky Comedy" DVD program. There are many
different "roles" you can play with women that
REALLY spike up the ATTRACTION... and I'll teach
you all about them in this program. You can go
check it out here:
I'm glad you mentioned that the Advanced CDs
have helped you recapture what made you successful
in the past.
I think a lot of guys have had times in their
lives when they were successful with women... but
for whatever reason they have lost their old
"mojo". Maybe it was a marriage that went bad...
maybe a girlfriend that eventually turned them
into a Wuss Bag... whatever.
I get a lot of emails from guys who USED to be
good with women, but have been out of practice for
so long that they might as well be starting over.
If you fit in this category, or you're just
getting started and you want to get off on the
right foot, then I recommend you check out my
eBook "Double Your Dating", and then my Advanced
Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
No kidding, this stuff has taken me several
years to learn, test, refine, and explain clearly.
If you want the best material available for
meeting and dating women, this is it.
The Advanced CD/DVD program includes over 12
full hours of digitally recorded and edited
footage of me teaching LIVE.
Go watch some great video clips of the program
My downloadable online eBook comes with three
free bonus booklets, and it's the foundation for
everything I teach in these newsletters. Get it
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I'll talk to you again soon.
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***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***
Okay, here goes. First, what's been working for
me. The CF attitude is definitely paying off.
Bottom line, IT WORKS. Another tip I've found to
work for me is to generally play up to a woman's
insecurities. DON'T make fun of them, be
respectful, but just let them be aware of the
fact, tactfully, that you KNOW that they arn't
perfect, and given a different set of
circumstances, if you so chose, you could be with
someone else. The trick I have found that works
for me is to ALWAYS KEEP THEM GUESSING. Does he
like me, or doesn't he? Where do I stand? How can
I win him over? Don't give them your undieing
devotion to them right off the bat or they'll KNOW
that you're a wussy!!!
Okay, so here's my question. Could you tell me
how to ask a girl out without "losing your
power...?" It seems to me like once you have "put
yourself out there", and asked her the question
"Will you go out with me?" you have made yourself
seem somewhat weak and wussy-like. Is there a way
to do it and still make it seem like you are in
Also, where do you think is a good place to ask
a girl out on a first date? I don't generally like
the movies since you don't get to talk much.
N, Washington, DC
It's always interesting to me to get a view of
how another person sees the world...
Your questions have given me some insight into
the way you THINK, and I believe that I'm going to
be able to give you some great ideas.
Before I address your questions, I want to make
a few comments about the beginning of your email.
You said that you've found that "playing up a
woman's insecurities" in a tactful, Cocky & Funny
way, is really working for you.
Now, this might sound a little bit "cruel and
unusual" to others reading your comments... and
I'd like to explain the psychology behind it, and
tell you why I think it works so well for you.
There are a few keys that one needs to remember
when interacting with an attractive woman you've
1) Most guys pursue her, give her compliments, try
to get her approval by giving her things and
taking her out.
2) Most men don't say things that might "rock the
boat". In other words, most men won't make a
comment early on that might offend or upset her.
3) Most men give away all of their power to
attractive women INSTANTLY. I'm talking as soon
as they meet.
4) Women interpret these behaviors as a man not
feeling comfortable enough and secure enough IN
himself to BE himself. In other words, these
"commonly accepted courting behaviors" actually
come across as subtly MANIPULATIVE to women. At a
subconscious level, a woman can INSTANTLY sense a
man who is communicating the message "I don't
think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to
do a bunch of other things for you in the hopes
that you'll give me approval". I know, the truth
So, how does this relate to playing up a
woman's insecurities in a tactful, Cocky & Funny
Making fun of a woman's insecurities in a fun,
teasing way says something much bigger... it says
that you're not looking for approval and that
you're not afraid of her walking away. It's one
of those things that says a lot more than just
what you're saying with words.
Remember the newsletter I wrote titled, "What
Annoys Women, What Attracts Them"?
Well, you might recall that I said that one of
the things that annoys women the MOST is when a
guy is weak and tentative... and he seeks approval
by trying to do whatever he thinks a woman would
want him to do. In other words, by trying NOT to
annoy a woman you'll often annoy her worst of all.
I know. reality is strange like that.
Now, on the OTHER HAND, if you say something
like "Hey, you're kind of short for a cute
girl"... it can have the OPPOSITE effect.
REMEMBER, one of the KEYS to this type of
comment is the HUMOR. Half of the Cocky & Funny
equation is FUNNY.
You're not being MEAN, you're being PLAYFUL.
But, when you comment on something that an
attractive woman might be insecure about in a VERY
FUNNY WAY, it says ALL the right things, all at
It says that you're not afraid of her, it says
that you're funny, it says that you're sassy, it
says that you're going to be a challenge... it
says that you're not seeking her approval, and it
says that you're not a WUSSY.
Now, keep in mind, this is a FUN thing to do.
If she LAUGHS when you say it, you're on the
right track. If she gets "fake mad", you're on
the right track. If she starts crying and telling
you that you're the kind of guy that should be
beaten up, then you need some work...lol.
I tease women all the time with this kind of
thing, and they love it.
ASKING WOMEN "OUT"
Earlier I mentioned that your questions have
given me some insight into the way you THINK.
Let's talk about that.
The way you've phrased your question, "Could
you tell me how to ask a woman out...?" tells me a
1) It tells me that you believe that you're the
one who has to do the asking
2) It tells me that you believe that you need to
ask a woman "out on a date" when you DO "ask her"
3) It tells me that you believe that you're taking
a big risk when you do (your words were "putting
yourself out there")
4) It tells me that you ALREADY think that she has
POWER OVER YOU... before you've even met her and
"asked her out"
Whoa. Heavy, man.
What if I said that the answer was to never ask
another woman out again?
What if I said that for the next year you need
to only tell women what you're going to do, and
let them know that if they'd like to join you they
may, but if they choose not to, it's their
What if I said that you're really only
"risking" something when you CARE what she thinks
of you... and that once you get over caring what a
woman thinks of you, your success will sky-rocket?
I realize that these might be "far-out" ideas,
but if you round up 100 guys who are VERY
successful with women, you'll find that MOST of
them operate with these beliefs.
I can't do the "psychological brain surgery"
that you seem to need in one email... but let me
give you a new way to think about this...
Beautiful women aren't interested in being with
men who are weak. They're not interested in men
who have low self esteem. They're not interested
in men who give away their power. They're not
interested in men who don't GET what they want in
In other words, beautiful women aren't
attracted to WUSSIES.
The type of thinking that you're showing me
here is WUSSY thinking. It's weak.
It's saying, "She has the power". I want her
to be with me, so I need to "ask her out" in order
to get her to spend time with me... if she rejects
me, I will lose something".
You're basically suggesting that you lack
something and she has it... and that you NEED what
she has so badly that you'll do anything for it.
You've handed over your power before the game
has even started.
And guess what kind of effect this is going to
have on a woman you're trying to "ask out"?
Right, she's going to SMELL YOUR INNER WUSSY,
whether it's in-person or over the phone.
She's going to hear it in your voice.
Women are PROS at sensing the Inner Wussy.
And women RESENT men that they can control.
So what's the answer?
Before I tell you, let me mention that the REAL
answer here is learning how to become a MAN that
women are NATURALLY attracted to. And there is no
"instant technique" that can make that happen. The
only way is to learn how to transform yourself
into this man that I'm describing. And there's
only place in the world you can learn the DEEPER
elements of this transformation. And that place is
On Being A Man
You need to realize that YOU are the one who is
the desirable prize. You are giving HER a great
opportunity by making yourself available to her.
You have nothing to lose if she doesn't spend time
with you... in fact, she SAVED you time by
eliminating herself from your consideration.
I'm not talking about becoming an arrogant,
outwardly over-inflated JERK here.
I'm talking about how you THINK.
So next time you're on the phone with a woman
that you've met recently, try this...
1) Call her and say, "Hey, WHAT'S UP?" Don't
talk about work, family, or any other BORING
2) Tease her and get back the fun mood that you
hopefully created when you first met her.
3) Tell her that you're busy, but you might have
some time on Saturday... and that if she's lucky
you might let her hang out with you.
4) Hang up. That's right, tell her you have to
go, and then GO.
Well, you need to learn how to not NEED her to
like you. And you need to learn how to give a
woman the gift of missing you. You need to learn
how to LEAN BACK, and not care what happens.
These things will help you TREMENDOUSLY.
Finally, call her back on Saturday afternoon
and say "Hey, I'm going to Starbucks, I think you
should buy me a cup of tea and entertain me".
BIG DIFFERENCE between that approach and the
way you've probably been doing things.
And I'm hoping that I've answered your "Where
do I take a woman on the first date?" question as
Don't take her ANYWHERE. Let her take you out
for a cup of tea. You can still pay, just to
prove that you're a "gentleman" (by the way, if
you say "I'm not paying for your tea because I
like you, I'm paying for it because I am a
gentleman", it's a nice touch).
And, if you're HELL BENT on going "out"
somewhere with a woman (why men cling to the idea
of going "out", instead of staying "in", I have no
idea), then go to a mall and make fun of fashions,
or go play a game of pool. DO SOMETHING THAT
ISN'T BORING... whatever you do. And do something
that doesn't say, "I'm trying to impress you".
But, let's face it. What you REALLY need is a
TOTAL THINKING OVERHAUL.
It's not simple or easy to get rid of years of
programming and beliefs. It's not going to happen
in a few minutes.
I seriously recommend that you get yourself a
copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
One of the things that makes me very different
from the other people that write about and teach
in this area, is my focus on the "INNER GAME"...
in other words, the PSYCHOLOGY of success with
women and dating.
If you want to be successful in the REAL WORLD
with women, you FIRST have to learn how to deal
with your INNER WORLD of emotions, thoughts, and
When I first started and made the decision to
learn how to become more successful with women and
dating, I had a LOT of insecurities and negative
I had negative self-image issues, problems with
shyness and nervousness around women... I had it
And, I didn't know where to start. I had no
idea what to do. All I knew was that I needed to
get this area of my life together, and that I
wasn't willing to sit around for the REST of my
life with that sinking, negative feeling about
myself that came from not knowing how to date
Well, as it turned out, I made a lot of
mistakes on my own road to success. I spent a lot
of time trying things that didn't work... and
getting a lot more "bad programming" (to add to my
In the end, one of the real KEYS that helped me
turn things around... and probably the main factor
in my ability to maintain on-going success
attracting and keeping great women around me, was
the work I did on the INSIDE.
Now, I'm not talking about lying on a couch and
talking about your problems.
I'll leave that to the professional shrinks.
I'm talking about learning how men who are
successful with women THINK... and how they SEE
I'm talking about learning the way BEAUTIFUL
WOMEN view men and the world... and how they
I'm talking about getting a perspective that
99% of most men never have... and facing my
fears... and overcoming them.
In my Advanced Dating Techniques Program, I
spend several HOURS working on "The Inner Game" of
success with women.
I cover everything from how to improve your
self-image, to how to overcome fear... all the way
to how and why women think and act the way they do
in "mating" situations.
This perspective will INSTANTLY change the way
you behave around women... and it will definitely
lead to more success in the areas that you need
I guarantee it.
Go check it out. There are some great audio
and video samples here, plus feedback from others
who have the program...
And if you're ready for a DEEP and POWERFUL
education on how to "reprogram" yourself for
success with women and dating, then you MUST check
out my Deep Inner Game program.
Inside this program, you'll learn the most
powerful and innovative ways to quickly overcome
your fears and anxieties with women and dating...
There is no other program like this in the
world. It is specifically focused on getting your
Inner Game together for success with women and
Go watch the preview video clips here... and
you'll get the picture:
Deep Inner Game
And, if you haven't downloaded your copy of my
online eBook, "Double Your Dating", then you
really need to do that now. It is the foundation
of everything I teach in these newsletters, and it
contains dozens and dozens of great tips and
techniques. Go download it here:
Double Your Dating eBook
I'll talk to you again soon.
David D. Dynimitehttp://firstname.lastname@example.org:fubar.com,2010:BlogAtom-5038.6231592007-11-26T17:48:30-08:002007-11-26T17:48:30-08:00The Secret To Make a Woman Want YouBefore I ever learned how to attract women, I
used to watch how those guys we call "Players"...
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their choice... and make it look so damn EASY.
I used to think to myself that it would be SO
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I figured that these guys must be "good
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